I am new to the forum: my name is jennifer I am 24 years old. Me and my WH (41) have been married 2 years today. that being said I found out aprox. 4 months ago that my H had been having an afair with my BEST FRIEND (18) . . . I have tried the forgivness thing and we have gone to counseling . . . he contenues to make excuses for why he still wants to "be friends" with this girl. When I found out about the afair I asked for 3 things . . . COunseling, he give up the relationship all together and that he stops reading pornagraphic material, he didnt do anything untill I moved out I was gone for a month and he started the things that I asked but now hat I have moved back he is back to his same old games. . . I know that he hasnt seen her but He contenues in porn and has quit counseling. I guess I needed a place to vent and a friend of mine sent me here. . . I guess my Question is not WHy?? but what next. . . I have been saving for an apartment. . . he knows. . . and still does nothing I half think its cuz he dosent think I will go and sign a year lease. . . our or shal I say my delima is that I am still very much in love with him. . . I even went so far as to say that he could have the porn as long as I dont have to hear it or see it. And yet thats not good enough.

Hi Mal, and welcome. You will find a lot of support here.<p>Do you have any children?<p>Some friend, huh? One thing is absolutely sure - she cannot remain your friend OR his if you want to save this marriage. The good news is, she'll likely dump him for someone her own age pretty dern quick.<p>I smell a male mid-life crisis here. Are you his first wife?<p>Why compromise on the porn thing? How is your self-esteem? Can you tell us more about yourself and the whole situation?<p>Start reading around this site and get smart about the psychology of affairs.