WOW, NoTrust, thanks for checking back in on me!<P>I'm feeling overwhelmed!

New_Beginning,<BR>Thanks for sharing your honest feelings. It's nice to know that there are so many supportive, helpful, loving people out there pulling for each other, isn't it?<BR>Congratulations on your STD/HIV tests! I am sure you are sooooooo relieved. I just had my 6 mo HIV sample taken today, and will probably have to wait a week to hear the results. I feel pretty positive that it will be negative, but you know about those little taunting voices in the back of your head...<BR>Keep posting. You've helped a lot of people, and have been a good example to us.<BR>Pilgrim

Pilgrim,<P>I just read your profile... pretty amazing stuff we do to ourselves, huh?<P>Best wishes on your results too... and I understand the results take about two weeks to receive, at least mine did.<P>Thanks for your support!

Sheryl,<P>Hang in there, I for one look fotwsrd to all of your encouraging words.<P>Your here with a desire to recover your marriage. To me thats all that matters.<P>I'm happy for you that all your tests came back clean. What a relief.<P>Keep in mind life on lifes terms isn't always fun. Our times of pain is where we get most of our growth in life. It's hard to imagine but when I get on the otherside of something painful I have alot of gratitude.<P>Keep walking and growing, the other side will be here before you know it.<P>You have many friends here that do love you.<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

NB, your notes in this thread were making warning bells go off in my head for some reason ... in particular, this: <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>The last few times I posted I received a lot of support, and I am thankful for it. I don't know why this happens, and maybe you'll understand the truth of it, but the negative responses hurt much more than the positive helped. Does that make sense? Therefore, I have shyed away from posting at all.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Y'know, I'm really thinking that you need to work on forgiving <I>yourself.</I> I might be completely off-base about this, so if you find this idea absurd, just ignore me <P>However, think about it ... if you had truly forgiven yourself, then what others say about you would not hurt - you would know they were misguided. The positives would be wonderful affirmations - the negatives would elicit sympathy for those of us who cannot let go of the hurt and anger.<P>Just my thoughts of the moment ...<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR>I believe in miracles...<P><BR>

Thanks Bill, and I just posted the wierdest thing I've ever posted on your "friends" thread... it must be the Nyquil

Sheryl and anyone else reading this:<P>EVERYONE commits sins - we just don't all commit the same ones. EVERYONE makes mistakes and bad choices at some time in their lives.<P>Our job as humans has NEVER been to be perfect or sin-free - we couldn't do either even if we wanted to.<P>Our job as humans is to continue to strive to overcome our humanness. To learn from the mistakes we have commited and try to not repeat them. If we do, then to try harder next time to not repeat them a second or third or fourth time....<P>The only sin as I see it here,is to not try to be a better person despite our personal failings and humanness.....<P>The world according to Desiree!<P>Sheryl, I love you - you are a WONDERFUL human being and a GOOD hearted person!!!!<P>Desiree<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Roll Me Away (edited December 13, 1999).]

Desiree is a very bright part of this world, indeed! <P>Thanks, sweetie!<P>------------------<BR>Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.<P>~John Lennon

Terri!!!! I missed your post... so sorry...<P>Yes, I am working on it very hard, honey... I AM!!!<P>I am feeling better than I have a right to feel tonight, mostly because of those test results, I think! <P>I go to my counselor on Wednesday... and I promise, I'm working on FIRST forgiving myself.<P>Thank you for the kind words!

Sheryl-<P>Seems I am always late to your posts!! Sorry!<BR>You know I love you (even tho you spell your name wrong-LOL)<BR>You, among others, have helped me take a huge look at MYSELF, and MY part in why my marriage is the way it is. You have helped me to let go of the bitterness and the resentment and all those other ugle feelings I had for my H.<BR>Through this forum, I am now able to say, that I love my H now, as much as I did when we were married (it is different now, a truer love)<BR>I think that Terri has a very good point. You need to forgive Sheryl. You need to realize that you made a mistake.<BR>Some my believe that infidelity is the ultimate sin. But, it certainly isn't in God's eyes. He views lying and stealing right up there w/ it. Sin is sin, period.<BR>You need to rest. You can't worry about the rest of the world. It will keep spinning and there is nothing you can do to stop it.<BR>So, enjoy the ride. Smile alot. Hum. Wear your favorite perfume before you go to bed. Sing your son to sleep. Do the little things, that make is crazy world all that it is.<BR>Take care.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl<P>PS- I e-mailed you again, but that stupid yahoo is acting up again. I'll try later.<BR>

The Columbo bit added to helping me get out of my blues. For that I thank you.<P>Being lighthearted helps ease the pain doesn't it?<P>Bill<P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

Sheryl, Sheryl, Sheryl,<P>Here I am if you ever need a shoulder to cry on or a hand to high five. New to this forum or not, I am not new to the pain you are feeling. It is easy to feel down after visiting here, in fact, I rarely feel Up myself when I log off. I usually have a headache. Anyway...<P>Congrats on your test results, mon ami, and keep on keepnig on, I believe in you.<P>Khyra<P>

Cheryl, <P>Thank you for your heartfelt words... I'm heading over to read your newest thread... hang on... and I await your email. Hugs, to Cheryl with a C <P>Bill,<P>Boy, oh boy... AGREED! It's nice to have a little bit of my humor back! My personal favorite was the "pull-ups"...<P>and Khyra,<P>WOW, what a lovely message. Thank you!<P>

Not much more to say to Sheryl than...<P>((((((hugs))))))<P>Know how tough it can be, but the spirit seems to be lightening up some.... <P>I know that Charlie Brown Christmas tape helped me tons.. <P>

Connor, <P>CB Christmas one of my fav's too! Did you know they made a <B>second</B> one... not as good as the first, but light and happy nonetheless!<P>Yes, lighter, feeling better. Marriage not healed, but I'm getting there! That's a good thing, right?

Sheryl,<P>Nothing but honor and respect will I ever have for you... <P>You are more human than most people that I have ever met in person or on the net.<P>God grant you all the graces to stand up high and strong... <P>Let my and everyone elses prayers be the vessel to bring you these graces. Gifts unseen, yet so real.<P>Jim

My gosh, Jim... I have no words... except, thank you!<P>~Sheryl

Sheryl,<P>You know I would have to say something to you. Congrats on the tests and I hope the counseling goes well tomorrow. Do take care of yourself. I have great faith in you and H.<P>God Bless You and Your Family

Thanks JL <P>I'm feeling Good , and that says something, huh???<P>~Sheryl<P>------------------<BR>Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.<P>~John Lennon