I really don't know what to think. I've been handling my husbands affair of 6 months one day at a time. He has had no contact with her since the night I found out. Only now I find out she gave him money....she hired a lawyer to get it back! I told him, if he gives her ANY money I'm gone....even if it means jail time. I'm not sure I said the right thing....I'm not even sure what I want, just that this hurts so much!

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by joan04:
<strong>I really don't know what to think. I've been handling my husbands affair of 6 months one day at a time. He has had no contact with her since the night I found out. Only now I find out she gave him money....she hired a lawyer to get it back! I told him, if he gives her ANY money I'm gone....even if it means jail time. I'm not sure I said the right thing....I'm not even sure what I want, just that this hurts so much!</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Joan, how is H since the D-day ?. Did he try to work on M ?. does he show progress ?. He did no contact ... that is good you have to give him a lot of credit. Could you give more info ?.<p>This is my opinion, your demand is unreasonable. If H has to be order by the court H has to comply and it is not H's choice. Yes, it was a bad choice to accept $ and also have A w/ OW. However H is not give the $ back ... it will be ordered by the court ... or at least will have to hire lawyer.<p>Question for you ? why is that bad to return $ that your H eat up ?. won't that be really cut the ties so that there is no "debt" to OW ?.<p>-RH-