I need some help on how should I confront my wife. She went on a weekend trip in August 2001. I discovered that she may have meet or picked up a man from the airport to drive up together. I have documented lots of circumstancial evidence but no hard proof. I confronted her last summer after the trip and she told me his name, ocupation, and home city/state. She admitted to talking via e-mail and telephone. She told me where and how they met. I asked her specifically if she ever met him in-person since first meeting him and she denied ever seeing him. I took a phone call on Sunday from a friend that felt guilty about knowing the details and watching me suffer. She told me that my wife had indeed had a PA with this guy.<p>She moved out of the house in October 2001 and left me with both of the children (ages 4 years and 2 years). No one can understand her moving out without her children. And to this day she is still out with no return planned. In October there was one day when she went home sick. I went by to see her and her vehicle was not at the apartment she was staying at. I went back 4 different times that night to her not being there. At 4am she finally returned. I had left about 3 voice messages on her cell and home phone she never answered the phone. She sent me an e-mail when she got to work telling that she was sorry and had broken down and called him. When I asked why she didn't answer the calls she said she feel asleep so deeply that she didn't hear the phone ring.<p>I guess I'm very much convinced something happened. She doesn't know that I spyed on her in October. <p>Help me figure out a way to confront her with this evidence and friend's disclosure. I need her to be honest and I don't want to drive her further from me. The guilt must be killing her and I want to start the rebuilding process with truth and honesty. I'm willing to work on me and change to meet any and all of her needs. Please help!!!!!<p>A

I am so sorry for your pain. I would suggest showing her this message that you have written. It explains everything very well. It is hard to imagine a mother walking away from her small children so I would not get my hopes up to high.
I agree it is essential that you make it clear that you have all of this information. Maybe the shock of the truth will wake her up. I wish you luck.