Please read my story first.<P>My wife had lunch with this OM. She told me that she had issues to confront him on. Her problem was how they could have sex and then he drops her a week later. This made her feel used. When he set up the hot-mail account, he was just sending bible verses about thing he learn last year. My wife kept questioning him about his feelings. When I talked to my wife about this she stated that she was tring to find out what he was up to. I know that my wife misses the friendship she had with his wife.<P>Do you agree....... Would like imput from other women....<P>I will like to ask for prayer. After keeping the marriage together last year, my love bank is on zero. There has been times recently I just wanted to call a lawyer and give up trying but I know that is not biblically correct. She currently expresses very little affection towards me and states that currently she just considers me a close friend. That Hurts.... I also notice that I have very little patience when she complains to me about something I did. <P>Thanks for listening.<P>------------------<BR>

I have to say it really does sound like you have been trying. And, your right your wife may need alot of affection to feel special to you. Have you guys read any of the books together? Did your wife sit down with you to go through her emotional needs questionaire? <P>Your W needs to stop supporting her affair with doubtful questions on herself. She needs to be strong enough to find out what she did to get to the place you two are at. It also sounds like your W is still in withdrawal phase. It's not uncommon for your W to ask questions of her OM. She may need those for her withdrawal period. <P>But, from my personal experience- my H keeps most stuff to himself. And, I think that's why the OW has had such a tough time- even though he did tell her enough was enough.<P>I finally realized my h was protecting himself from his feelings because they crushed him too much. He also was in denial about what he had done to get himself there. Placed most of the blame on me. Not sure how he found his way out- but I do know that it really took alot of my patience, prayer, and self examination. I also stopped showing him my emotional side and "got tough". Which is how I truely feel- but when I'm mad- I cry.<P>In the end, you just need to decide what you have invested in the marriage. Can you really see any improvements after the Plan A etc. has been implemented? Withdrawal takes enough time as it needs- but if you ask her to do the work...she may be thankful that you did.