Well today was really good!!! My H and I found a house!!! It needs a LOT of TLC, but has potential! We are hoping to put a (contingent) offer in soon!!!

The best part of today was the fact that my H and I dropped the kids off at my moms today while we looked at houses. After we finished looking at houses we still had to take my youngest to the dentist (follow up from the other day!), so I asked my mom to watch my older daughter for a little longer so that I could run her to the dentist -- Well, my H asked her if he could stick around and talk to her (and my dad), and she said "yes"!!! While I was gone (only about 30 minutes) they sat outside and talked!!! AND when we were leaving, my mother even gave my H a HUG!!! (she said "just a little one, let's not push our luck") I am hopeful that this is a sign of good things to come!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> It meant sooooo much to both my H and me that she did this!!!

All I need now is a buyer for my house, and I think things will improve for me even more!!! (fingers crossed!!!)

I just wanted to share my good day, and I hope I'm not the only one who had one!!!

-mcnyh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Hi,
Sounds like you're doing okay with things, I'm really glad for you.

I bowed out for a bit in deference to Sue, she's fantastic! You two should get together, you've got a real friend in her.

Remember, one day at a time, okay?

God's Peace to your family <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

We have another person coming to look at our house tomorrow... please keep your fingers crossed!!! We found the PERFECT house for us... FAR AWAY FROM HERE!!! We are putting in an offer, but we NEED a buyer... and soon!!!

Thanks for everything!!!

-mcnyh

Hi MC,
I'm back from vacation. It was great. We went to Branson MO. Sort of like a Las Vegas without alot of gambling. Lots of shows. Didn't take them in. The kids would not have liked it. We went to Silver City, sort of pricey, but worth it. It was a theme amusement park. You pay a fee to get in, and the rides and shows are free (part of admission fee). You do have to pay for food and souveniers. A good time was had by all. On the way back home, H has to stop at the Bass Pro Shop, HUGE. I wanted to stop at the Grotto of Redemption in Iowa, but we didn't have time. It is sort of a shrine made out of rocks. My mom visited it a few years back. It is only about 2-3 hours from where we live, so I will probably make a day trip of it.

Anyway, I'm glad things are looking better. Just remember baby step. Well, gotta run to soccer. I'm on my lunch break. They let me tak a long break for the kids games, and I have to work longer during the week.

I'll check in later.

Sue -- we are putting in an offer on a great house we found yesterday!!! I hope that the guy who is soming to look at our house tonight will want it!!! (we NEED a buyer.... NOW!!!)

I had a bad night last night... I had a nightmare I could not get out of!!! Even when I woke up and fell back asleep, I went right back to the same dream!!! I don't remember all the details, but I know my "sister" was in it, and she was taunting me about what she did to me!!! I woke up this morning completely exausted, and depressed. I know it was just a dream, but it felt so real!!!

I am also scared that it has been a couple of weeks since "she" last made any "new" announcements... that means she is due for one (if she continues on the same pattern she has been on...) I am trying to concentrate on moving, but I am afraid that "she" will continue to try ruining my life!!! I wish she would let it go!!! Of course she knows this, and that is why the psyco keeps doing what she is doing!!! She wants me to fall apart (b*tch!!!)!!!

Please cross your fingers that we will get a buyer today!!!! I don't think I can stand being this close to "her" any longer!!! I think I deserve SOMETHING good to happen for me...right??? I would take ANYTHING good!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I hope you are doing well today!

Sorry for the vent -- I feel better... a little...

-mcnyh

Sue -- the people who came to see our house were a first-time home buyer, young couple!!! They were here for over an HOUR!!! (with their agent), I feel very hopeful that they will put a bid in!!! If they do, then we can put the offer in on the one we like (we found out today that the other people ,who own the property we want, won't accept a contingent offer -- unless we find a buyer for our house!) So PLEASE cross your fingers that THESE people will put in an offer!!! It is hard to not get my hopes up every time we have someone look at our house (we have had 8 couples look so far!!!) I REALLY want this new house... and REALLY want to sell this one! (not now... YESTERDAY!!!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I can't thank you enough for all you have done for me... I was at a point that I didn't think I could go on, and you have helped me sooooooooo much! I wish you lived closer... I would have loved a chance to meet you in person to say "thanks"!!! You have been the only person who regularly checks up on me, and your support has helped me more than you will ever know! Your insight and advice has been blessing to me!!! I just wish I could have offered you advice to help you deal with your situation! (sorry... I am still a little clueless about this stuff...)

I hope you had a good day!

-mcnyh

Just so you know, others do check in on you. Either they don't have anything to offer or what they have to say is similar to what I've had to say so they don't want to be redundant. Remember, Mike (getting better looks in on you often). Thanks. You kow, sometimes I read other posts and that helps me with mine. My situation is at a stalemate right now. Most of it is my own doing. I could confront and stir up a hornet's nest. Timing is bad, so I don't. I have found a way to live with it. It is okay. I know it is temporary. I could not live this way long term.

I hope this couple is interested.

I don't know much about dreams except that I would say this is getting to you. You need a change. What does your IC say about this?

One more thing, I don't recall and I'm too lazy today to go back and look. Did you tell me what area you are from? You don't have to if you don't want to. Maybe we are not that far apart? I'm in MN

Mike,
I was going to tell you before and I forgot,
You don't need to bow out. I think MC values your opinion also. You have provided both of us with other points of view.

SUe (& Mike) -- I appreciate your reply... I still need as much support as I can get <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> , I keep getting my hopes up to sell this place, and I keep WAITING for an offer to be put in it... it seems like it has been forever!!! Our realtor called us today and said that two couples are interested in putting in offers... One of the couples plans on waiting till later this month!!! I want them to do it NOW!!!! We even told our realtor that we will throw in ALL appliances (free), if someone will put in an offer now!!! (desperate, huh?)

I want out of here so bad!!! I don't even like being in my front yard out of fear of "her" driving by!!!

The house we want is on a street with no outlet, that means that "she" can't make up ANY excuse to drive by!!! (unless she is stalking us...)

By the way Sue... I live in NY. If you are EVER heading this way, please let me know!!!

I had another dream... I don't recall all the details, I just remember "her" being in it... I am torn. Part of me has already forgiven her, because I feel sorry for her. (she is sick), the other part of me hates her... I want to get over the hate, but how is that possible when "she" continues twisting the knife!!! She should be happy... she got what she wanted... me in pain! The rest of her behavior is Bull Sh*t!!!

Mike -- please post anything you want!!! I get very sad when I check my thread and there is nothing new!!! (you can just say "hi"!!!)

Thanks for everything!

-mcnyh

MC,

Don't get sad, we are here for you. I think there are others who read, just don't post. Maybe they don't have anything to add.

If I'm ever heading the NY way I will let you know. Since you mentioned you live in the country, I'm going to hazzard a guess at northern NY. You do the same if you are heading towards MN. We have some great lakes here, and you cannot forget the state bird, mosquito (just kidding) State bird is a Loon. And everyone does not go around saying "Ya Betcha". Don't believe movies such as Fargo, I forget the other one.

Your house will sell. Too bad you weren't in my area, houses hit the market one day and are sold the next day. My daycare lady's house sold in 4 hours, from the time she signed the papers to sell.

It looks like you are slowly moving past the anger with your sister. Someday you will stop hating her, and you will have more pity for her because she is sick. Her behavior is not normal.

How are those precious girls of yours?

Take care

<small>[ July 18, 2002, 08:48 PM: Message edited by: Sue with hope ]</small>

Sue -- I live in the Western part... Blizzard Country!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> My girls are doing good... my 4 year old keeps telling me she wants a house with a red door... which is wierd, because the house we want (she has not seen) HAS a red door!!! I think that's a sign!

I hope the day does come when I will stop hating "her"... It takes too much of my energy!!! I want to move on! (which is why I can wait to move away from her!!!)

Today is another day... maybe today is the day we get a buyer... Houses around here sell pretty fast... we have only been on the market for 3+ weeks, and we have several interested parties! I keep hoping!

Thanks again!

-mcnyh

I love blizzards - Okay, so I'm a little weird. It is better than 60- with the wind chill. I only recall one winter with around 50 or 60- and I don't think that included the windchill. For being in MN, we don't get too many blizzards. Maybe one a year.

I lived in Texas for 2 years. My last year there, the part I lived in had snow, a whole one inch. Because they were not used to it, and did not know how to drive in it I watched many of cars slip sliding away, so I stayed in. I watched some kids make a snowman on the hood of a car. The snowman probably stood about 10 inches high.

It was weird living with no snow around Christmas. I could not get into the holiday spirit until I got home. I always went home for the holidays. Would not miss it.

Maybe the red door is a sign. Don't put too much into it, just in case. At least she isn't asking for a pink house. Mine keeps asking us to paint the house pink. I'm okay with the color pink, just not my house.

Here is something I always believe in. If it is meant to be, everything will fall into place. If it isn't then don't try to force things to work because, eventually you will see it was the wrong choice.

yet another day... I feel like I have been dealing with this forever, instead of a couple months!!! I wish I could go into my brain and erase ALL the bad memories!!! Sometimes I wounder if the images will ever go away.....

oh well... I will survive this...

-mcnyh

I've been through the same thing it's creepy to think that there's other sisters out there who would do such a hurtful thing. Anyways 2 1/2 years ago my H & S had an affair. I felt like you do, I'm being punished, I'm full of hatred & contempt, wanted to gouge her eyes out every time i saw her....etc. Our family wasn't the same, my father seemed to take her side and didn't speak with my husband (who went into counselling too). Family get-togethers did not include my H becuase he felt uncomfortable and we knew my F was uncomfortable. I still have nothing to do with my sister because i feel she has no regrets about it. So she's outta my life forever and honestly i do not miss her. I also felt she did it out of jealousy and spite.
Now, after 2 1/2 years, my husband and I are still together and chalked it all up to a relationship strengthening opportunity and my family has just recently started to act like one again. My H & F are getting along helping eachother...etc.
So....my advice to you is bide your time & concentrate on your Marriage. Once your family sees that you & your H are in it for the long haul then they will come around. Keep your sister outta your life, once bitten, twice shy. In time you can forgive her and the hatred will vanish. It seems i could not honestly forgive my sister until things were right again in my family - so that was just recently.
I wish you the best.

Hi MC

Some advice from someone who has been there. I'm glad she saw your thread and replied.

I couldn't get on the computer all weekend. Sorry

Well we had another "open house" yesterday... One couple that came had already been here once before... this time they brought their parents to see it!!! I keep waiting for the phone to ring... I hope that this couple will put in an offer!!!

I keep trying to move on, but I fear that "she" is just waiting to come out with something new. I try to relax, but I can't! I live in fear of what she has planned next for us... I am so sick of it!!! I can't wait till I move away from here!!! Of course the fact that I am trying to get a REALLY nice house will probably piss her off, and maybe then she will try to cause more trouble!!! She has always been jealous of ANYONE having more than her!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I keep my fingers crossed that the worst is over... I guess only time will tell!

-mcnyh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> my day is getting worse. We lost the house we wanted!!! The seller accepted a bid that was almost $10,000 LESS than we were willing to pay!!! (but of course we were contingent!) I NEEDED something good to happen for me, and it feels like I always get bad stuff!!!!! We still have not heard from the potential buyers for our house, I guess they work untill 5:00, so we will have to wait...

Nothing I can do, right? I hate patience... it does not work well for me. I want things NOW!!! oh, well.

I will keep you posted.

-mcnyh <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Hi,
I know, we all want things now. Being patient is tough. I'm still working on that on. I'm getting better at it.

A better house will come your way. That house was not the house for you. I know it may sound weird, but it wasn't. We looked for about 6 months before we found the house we wanted. When we walked in the one we have, we knew this was it. Of course, now I wish we held out a little longer, there are features that I wish were different on this one. That's okay, I still like my house.

The couple returning whith their parents is a very good sign. It means they want it. They want the opinion and experience of their parents. Buying your first house is a major investment, so you want to make a sound decision.

You will find another house, which is more suited for you and your family. Your house will sell.

Take care

Hi MC,
Are you okay?