I just found out that my husband had an affair and was going to hook up with this bimbo later this month. I found out about the reservations and confronted him and he spilled all. I found her phone number and found out she, too is married. I left a voice mail informing her that my husband has Herpes....and didnt tell her. They did not use a condom at all. She emailed him and told him that she, too, had herpes and didnt tell him. Im freaking out. I have never had symptoms or tested positive because we have always been careful. <p>When he got home, we had unprotected sex, he is my husband, and then 2 days later, I found out about it. Im lost. I have a doctors appointment on the 18th and I cant wait. <p>How can 2 people have sex in the year 2002 without protection?<p>They were going to have esex and he bought a webcam. Im disgusted at the length they were going to take it. There are other women popping out and I dont know when to start forgiving. I want him to come clean so I can forgive him for everything...not a littel something everyday. How do you get past this?

I too have Herpes and my H hasn't shown any signs after 13 years. I actually didn't really realize I had it until we were married many years - I suspected, but always found a reason to deny. <p>I'm sure if she wasn't having an outbreak you are just fine. But who knows why they didn't say anything and wear a condom?? Okay, they shouldn't have been doing it in the first place I know!
I don't understand not using protection these days.

The sexual diseases that are spread to families by these affairs go far beyond the three or four everyone is familiar with. First, if a person has sex with one other person and of course they convince themselves that this person has never done anything like this before, they have to look at the statistics and consider some of the more interesting bugs that result. Lymphoma, has been connected to HTLV virus which is very much like the HIV virus and they come from the same place. The rate of Lymphoma has increased almost in step with AIDS over the past 15 years...165%!<p>But rather than wading through that cesspool, just do a search on sexually transmitted diseases and then consider this.<p>A has sex with B (Isn't it so romantic and nobody will ever know and oh! you make me so hot...)<p>B had sex with C prior to having sex with A
C had sex with D, E, F, and G prior to B
D had sex with H, I, J, K, and L
E had sex with M and N
F had sex with O, P, Q and R
G had sex with C and S<p>So you have 1 + 1 initial love affair (A + B)
but B brought along to the love affair the little buggers that C carried and that was a mix of bugs from five other people and if we play this out just a liitle bit...you have 19 people having sex with (A) (your spouse) as far as catching a sexually transmitted disease goes. Keep in mind, that many of the diseases result in no symptoms for the carriers, or the symptoms pass without treatment and now reside in that person.<p> A recent study in California indicated that 50% of all first and second year female students had a sexually transmitted disease...those are the same hot babes that men drool over and of course all the studs that are making out with these carriers get the gifts that keep on giving.<p>So, back to your wayward spouse...odds are, they got more than they bargained for or you even imagined. Play it smart and go with them to the doctor and get them checked out before you decide to have sex with them again or consider yourself as part of the big chain-bang.