My H has been having an affair. I feel so repetitive b/c it seems like I tell this over and over. Anyway they met at work and were both recently fired. The OW family has no idea of the truth. Last year I tried to tell them but she was able to lie her way around the truth. I am sure that they have some speculation still. I am in a mess because I feel that they should know the truth. I have tons of evidence of this affair that I could give to them but I am not so sure that I should or even how to do it. Should I consider a 3rd party? Maybe I should just let it go...??? Please tell me what you think. I don't think that i am being vindictive but I feel that her family should know.

DO YOU know why you think her family should know!? And why do you think they should know and that it is your place to do so.
I think if the affair is over and you are in recovery you should let it go. It will not solve anything, chances are her family will still love her and things will go on.
Family tends to love unconditionally and you will be made to look vidictive, even if you dont mean to be.
Hold your head up high and walk away.. you have done nothing wrong.
concentrate on you and your happiness.
Just a thought.

oops didnt see that it was ongoing, but still you need to make a plan for you . ARE you IN A PLAN A?
Plan B?
i THINK IT WILL PUT YOU IN A BAD LIGHT EVEN THOUGH THAT DOESNT SEEM FAIR. You should be carefull.
God Bless

I didn't say that it was my place. I feel that somewhere lies need to stop and honesty needs to start. Family does have unconditional love but when that family is betrayed and lied to by someone who is vindictive and deceitful - that creates false hope.
I am not trying to be vindictive but I believe that most people would rather know the truth than live a lie. I feel guilty for not telling her family. Maybe thats crazy but its just how I feel.

Hi Seeking,<p>I don't recall, how long has this been going on, how long has it been since you found out?<p>Her family will find out eventually. I honestly think that telling her family will set you back. Your H, will be very mad, he might get mad just because. I will not be because of his feeling for her. It may even drive him closer to her. Let the A die on its own. <p>The first time my H had an A, we were not married, but engaged. I called her, he got mad. I also found out that he was complaining to her about me. She told me I could not tell him how to spend his money. I told her that when he spent so much of his check and there was not enough out of my check to pay bills and buy diapers, I have every right to tell him how to spend his money. <p>Well, he left, they moved in together. I heard that they fought all the time. Amazing when she actually had to live with him, just how wonderful Mr. Wonderful really is. All was not bliss after all. It died, he wanted to get back together. I refused until he married me. I was not going to live together again. No way.<p>He has improved in the money area. <p>As much as you want to tell, you have nothing to feel guilty about. You did not have the A. It is not your responsiblity to come clean about hte A. Is the OW married? <p>Take care and good luck