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wife and I were seperated for two months and I moved back home 3 weeks ago. I suspected her of having either a ONS or affair while I was away. Just discovered she is back on the pill (i had a vasectomy (sp?) 4 years ago). Should I tell her what I know? we have 2 young kids and have been married for 11 1/2 yrs. she has a personality consistant to that of a narcossis (sp?). Man I'm tied of all this but do want to save our M. Please help.
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pm, Sorry to hear about your situation. The most important thing right now is to relax and take it easy for a while. Don't do anything that might jeopardize a recovery of your marriage. <p>My advice at this EARLY stage is too read/memorize as much of the background material on this site as possible. Start with the General Welcome under the MB Discussion Forum. <p>It's difficult to comment on your situation further because your post was rather brief. Post again. With some more details and I'm sure you'll receive a lot of responses & encouragement.<p>Good Luck and Don't do anything drastic...<p>Sweden
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I would suggest that you bring up the subject immediately. You have returned and working on the marriage. It should be based on honesty and openness. You have to know if she is having sex with another man and putting your health at risk.
It would seem reasonable to assume since she is now on the pill. Once an affair comes to light it may die immediately. By saying nothing you are encouraging her to continue her behavior and her cheating if this is the case. I wish you luck.
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thanks, Sweeden. My origional post is found in divorice/divoricing. Please read and get back with me. I'm sure her feelings are , even though we are not yet divoriced, that since she has made up her mind to end the marriage, that she is doing nothing wrong by sleeping with another.
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let me add to my last post. I came back not because she asked but to be with my kids as much as possible before the divorice, nor is she interested in my SF needs. Its all about her...
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while your instincts may be correct.. please no that DR. prescribe birth control pills for a variety of medical reasons besides birth control.
You can ask, but dont be accusing, you might get a better response.
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yes i'm sure my instincts are correct because i discovered white stains inside her skirt a few weeks ago. I held back telling her of my discovery but once i did (due to one of her triggers)she denied it, saying it could have been bird ****, discharge, etc..that she has done nothing wrong. Then, this AM I found the pills in her purse (shes been keeping her purse in her car w/doors locked. Well this Am the door was not locked and I snooped...
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