Hello. I found this sight while I was seeking help. This is my first post. I will try to keep it short. I have been married for about 11 months now. I was engaged for a year and dated my husband for three years before that. We have been friends for about six years. I honestly thought I had found my soul mate. About two months ago my H got a call from an old friend from college. He ended up lying to me about her. About a month ago I suspected he was cheating on me. when I asked him about it, he denyed it. We were both really busy with our jobs and our relationship was pretty rocky. He then began to break off contact with her and try to fix things with me. About three weeks ago I found out she is pregnate. I was so frustrated. She claimed she would give it up if he would not leave me. We decided to try and work it out. We are currently looking for a MC. Our problem is that she will not give it up. So now he is torn between me and his OC. We have no children together yet. He made the mistake of telling his parents of his problem and they say he should be with the baby. We really want to work this out. He has admited his mistake and is will to do anything to fix it. I am really confused. I know I want to be with him, but am I just being selfish? Any advice would help. Thanks in advance.

jen

Have you looked at the prg/child forum ? It has many people in your position, It might help you not feel so alone to meet other women who are dealing witht he same things.

FIRST.. Untill you know for sure and DNA has been done you can not confirm that is your husbands baby.

TRY posting on the other forum, I am sure you will get a few more responses.
welcome to marriage builders, I am sorry this is what brought you here.

Jen,
I agree with mom on the other forum

To answer your question are you being selfish, NO.

You are his wife, he married you. He said vows. He made mistake, if you both want to work it out, his parents should not be advising him to leave you because of the baby. His first priority should be to you. He needs to take responsibility in some way with regards to the baby, but that does not have to include leaving you. (my opinion)