As a husband, as a lover, and a friend, I need to be able to look into your eyes and see that you are going through some emotional turmoil over this too. I'm sick of being the only one crying and feeling pain. Don't you realize that we need to cry together if we are going to rebuild a future together?

The decisions you made were your own. Yes, you could've stopped this a long time ago and you did the right thing by coming forward. But, in light of the fact that I will never know WHY this WHY now and WHAT NEXT, it would help if you would cry, ask me to love you, and ask me to forgive you. The "I love you" with a poker face and monotone hard look just don't do it for me. It alienates me even more. Staring into the abyss of how you have changed, I need to see the human inside you... not the stranger who embarked on a love affair without me.

Cheers.

Perfectly worded.....
Exact emotions......
wondering myself.....
Be patient Lyxa....Im sure that she's still in shock that she's at home and probably feels more like a visitor than a wife.....if there is a way to share with them the emotions that we were going through as the BS....we would...but it defentely a different emotional they are batteling....I wish there would be a posting from a WS saying how they feel when their spouse forgives them and take them back and the struggles that they were going through...just to give me a peek at what Im up against....

Sirah, Sirah

Lyxa,

You are there already but she is not ... wait and pray that the light will shine upon her. Don't judge her ... inside her, unless she is made up of stone, she cried in anguish. BS/WS are all the same ... we are all greif and pain and hurt ... the only different is could we find our way to the road to recover ?.

Think of it you are at the bus stop on the road to recovery waiting for your love one to be there. The end of the journey is a promise land, fill with care, love and fullfilling M.

We hear your pain and we share it too. -RH-