I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now, we have a 5 year old child together, 2 years ago my man & I had a threesome with one of his best friends, it was his idea, but I went along with it, now he blames me.

After that incident, I told him our relationship wouldn't work, but he seemed to think it would, & he sais he loves me so much & won't leave, well since the incident I have cheated on him, he is not very good to me at all, he screams, treats me really badly, but he will not leave me & I am scared to leave, but I also feel very guilty for cheating on him, there is no way I would ever tell him, I would rather leave first, someone please give me advice.
Thanks for listening

<small>[ July 05, 2002, 01:28 PM: Message edited by: Charrob ]</small>

Charrob,

Yours is a most unusal post for the 'Infidelity » Just found out...' forum.

You are not married.

Neither of you have made a commitment to each other.

Promiscuity is in your distant past(threesome)... and your recent past(affair).

Cheating on your H... will most certainly make him think (and reaffirm) the thoughts that 'relationship wouldn't work'!...
...and anger (unmanaged)... will most definitely be exporessed in 'screams', and being 'treat(ed) (me) really badly'.

Your looking for 'advice"...
...but I am unclear as what you're looking for.

Marriage?... (do you / he want to get married?)

Save your relationship?... is this something worth saving?

Separation?... financial...social... other repercussions?

Most people come here to 'save' their marriages...
...and start a recovery!

If you want to learn what it takes...
...check out Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts.

The rewards of a fully self-giving, covanental, marriage are unbounded...

A live-in situation... without commitment and focus and giving... will struggle... and distruct.

Where are you?... and where do you want to go?

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Jim/NSR