a month ago my wife was out with some friend and got hight a cheated on me with a 17yr old boy she is 22yr when she came home she told me about it and said she was sorry and still wanted to be with me since then i've seen such a change in her she goes got almost ever night till about 4am some times late and we have a 2yr old she does get up with in the morning ,i've caughter her lie to me about where she goes , i try to get here to stay home but she doesn't i found condom's in her pruse thet she said her friend put them there as a joke ("this is was only a week after she cheated on me real funny joke") one night she bought a box of condom's lie about and when i caughter she said she bought them for her friend so if she bought them for her friend why whould she lie about and also buy $12.00 box of 36 plus with my moeny she lie at first about even going over to her friends house that night when i asked her where she was she went to two store's and that was all intill i fought her friends bra in her pruse the next morning then she said she did go over there then later that day she said she took her to the store that all but why did she lie to me about it at first the next day i could find the receipt from the story i had asked her what she bought and it didn't add up so i went to the story had a copy off the receipt print and right there on the receipt was the condom's i went home asked her what she bought and she lied again then i asked her if she bought any condom's she saided no then i showed her the receipt that's when she said she bought them for her friend and it was suppost to be between them and i didn't need to know that she bought them i don't know what to do i love her but i don't know how much more off the lie's i can take and me not knowing where she's at for 8 hr or more ever night tonite she been gone since 6:45 it 11:18 i paged her over a half hour a go and have heard anything back
yesturday she was gone from 9:30 to 3:45
the night before 10:00 to 4:45 what is she doning and why if she love me and our daughter family service was all ready call because she was leaving my daugter in her room till 2:00 pm and not feeding her or change her she say's she loves us but i don't see it please help

First you are very young to be dealing with these things, But your first and only choice, is to see that your daughter is properly fed clothed and cared for in a good environment. ALSO if your wife is endangering your child, then it is your job to get help and remove her from the situation. As your daughters father you have thet responsibility.
I dont see in this situation you have a choice but to give your wife a dose of reality.

Your childs health and well being comes first. Please dont allow this to continue.

<small>[ July 09, 2002, 07:36 AM: Message edited by: mom of five ]</small>

I would suggest having your daughter stay with trusted family for a while. If needed, snoop, hire a PI, do what it takes. Confront her. Work with her if she's willing to work with you... it sounds like there are drug addiction issues as well.

Good luck. Take care of your daughter.