H and I worked together to try and come up with a decent sounding no contact letter. Please note: H states outright that he did not invest much emotion into the A at all. Whole thing seems to have been one HUGE close call and wake up call to us on what's really been going on in the marriage. OW's actions indicate to my thinking that she did invest a good deal of emotion into it (trying hard to initiate additional interaction at work). H says he never got "sappy" with her, so we agree (enthusiastically, even!)that his no contact letter should be very cut and dry. I believe that she may be much more heavily invested emotionally, and this makes me somewhat concerned over her potential reaction, tho much concern for her is difficult for me to muster. Any advice would be much appreciated! Okay, here goes:
To:
I am sending this letter to confirm for you that I have reconciled with my wife.
To protect her, I have decided to break off all non-professional contact with you. This decision - not to contact you or interact with you in any way other than as required to maintain a polite professional relationship - is permanent and not subject to change. I ask that you respect my decision, and never seek to contact me, or interact with me other than as required to maintain a polite professional relationship. I will refuse all efforts to initiate other than professional contact with me, and I will notify Msjpw immediately of any contact between us, as I have been doing after each and every communication you have made thus far, and I will continue to alert her to any effort made to initiate additional interaction. I have been completely honest with Msjpw about everything that has transpired. This is essential to rebuild a trusting relationship between Msjpw and I, and I have committed myself to doing so.
I hope that this letter makes clear my position.
That's it. Thanks in advance for any advice you folks have for us on this!
