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Three weeks into recovery I'm curious. My Hs A began at his place of business. He's a manager in the restaraunt industry. Where do many of your WSs work? Do you think there are some industries more prone to the danger?
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My WW is also a mgr in the restaraunt industry. Late night hours made things easier for the A to transpire. OM is actually a bartender there and WW has been friendly with him for years. Stupid me always thought that was ok. As long as she always came home to me. Eventually she stopped coming home to me.
Others have posted on here that workplace affairs seem to happen pretty often due to the fact that they are there dressed nicely, have there best foot forward, etc. It really is a hard battle to face sometimes. It seems like we go to a job for 8,10,12 hrs a day and give them our best and our families get what is left over at the end of the day.
It really makes me wish, like a lot of others that I would have found MB before all of this.
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My H is a manager in the restaurant industry too. Seems to be the industry for it. I guess there's a lot of time for talking and being with people - unlike my boring office job. He tells me that OW is bubbly and ineteresting - who wouldn't be when they're 20, no resposibility and can serve chicken without having to use their brain. I'd be ineteresting and bubbly too if the drudgeries of life and resposibility of being 31 and having a home and family didn't matter.
I'm going to work in the restaurant industry one day and find out what really goes on there. It seems very relaxed and very unprofessional.
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My FWS is a police officer. His A was with a women he had to take a report for. He has been a police officer for 15 years and always stayed away from other officers who cheated. He always told me his family was the most important thing to him, but at the end of 2000 he started to have a MLC and she walked into his life. Our MC seems to think and I have to agree with her that my H was looking to prove he was still young, he was looking for excitement. The ow really didn't matter to my H, she could have been anyone, he just picked her because she was willing. I always felt that I would never have to worry about my H having an A because he was such a family man, he never went out with the boys after work and never even say any of them unless they were working. What a wake up call I got when I found out about his A.
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FWH works in a school with FOW. All his extramarital activities took place there...or at lunch but he was home every day at the same time...never left except to go for his walk (and nightly telephone call to OW) He was home and playing the part of the perfect husband and father everynight and weekend...go figure. He should get an academy award for that huh?
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My H works out of our home. It was an old HS friend that contacted him through classmates.com.
Since he was by himself and his only interaction with other people was via the phone, he was lonely and liked going to lunch with his "friend".
Well, she was looking to be more than friends and loaded on the ego boosting. So, the mega attention, the lonliness and some depression - it was easy for her to manipulate him into seeing her, calling her and emailing her.
So, we have a different "workplace" situation. It's wild how this stuff happens.
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