By now I realize that this happens to lots of people. I wish that made me feel better, but it doesn't. We met on the Internet and he gave up his whole life and sold everything he had to be with me. We've been married for 3.5 years and have an amazing new baby--- and he had an affair that lasted for the better part of a year with a woman he worked with after only a year of marriage. It eventually died a natural death and he was never going to tell me but her friend informed me about two months ago. He flatly denied it and I believed him and then she contacted me again and he admitted it. He broke down and sobbed before me and begged me not to leave him and we have both talked of suicide. He is terrified that I will go and said that he will never leave me and will do whatever it takes to prevent it ever happening again. We're in therapy now.
I just had an incredibly painful realization last night tho. She threw a party and invited us a few weeks after they started having sex. I remember him telling me that she wanted to meet me. He was going to parade me around in front of her for her to critique? I just can't get my mind around all of this and literally feel myself losing touch with reality.

sacagawea:

You have definitely come to the right place. Many of us here have had similar experiences. It is very hard, particularly for the first couple of months after D-day, but it DOES GET BETTER with time.

You have a big plus in your favor - your H is remorseful and is in therapy with you. So long as you two are working together to get through this tough time you have every reason to be optimistic about your future.

Welcome, and good luck to both of you,