Hi all. This is the first time that I have ever posted anything on this site. Maybe someone in similar circumstances can shed some light on my situation. I am 32 and I am in my 2nd marriage. I have 2 sons and my husband has 1 daughter and 1 son. When I met him, it was the most wonderful day of my life. We have been married now for 1 1/2 yrs. For the past year his ex-wife has been constantly dragging us into court for one thing or another. She abandoned the children for the 1st year. My husband turned down promotions, and changed his hrs. at work to take care of them. When she found out that we were getting married is when the problems started. She is remarried also. After we got married, her new husband harrassed me at work on a daily basis for 8 mos. while they were in the middle of a custody battle. All my husband kept telling me to do was "be nice" so I have been nice. He has had 1/2 custody of his children for 5 yrs. The oldest son has decided to live with his mother full time and will not even speak to his father. We have yet to figure out why he has chose to do this. My husband is a wonderful, wonderful father to them. We just went to court four weeks ago and she went for full custody of the daughter. She told the judge that it was very hard on her to be away from her brother. (they can't stand each other)so for that reason the judge awarded her. We went from paying 475.00 a mo. to 1350.00 a mo. Since this has happenened my husband has been so horrible to me and my children. He says he cannot stand to look at my children play and can't see his. He has stopped having any sexual interest, we can't afford our house or our car now, we have to get rid of both of them. We are constantly arguine,(something that is new to us). I can try to understand what he is going through, and be by his side, but, he won't talk to me, he leaves the house for hrs. at a time. I don't know if I can take it anymore.
I am willing to be in financial ruin with him because of my love for him and make the best out of everything, but our marriage is headed down the tubes and I don't know what to do to fix it. He ignores me when I try to call him at work, or e-mail him. If anyone has any comforting suggestions, I am all ears.

Thank you for listening