will where do i start for the first 2 1/2yr of marraige with my wife is was depressed and never want to do any thing and did wrk or take care of the house then finily after 2 /2 years she got help and for 2mth was fine clean house was nice to me and stared looking for a job
then she found a job stop going to therapy
then after a week of working she started going out ever night till 6am she would get off of work about 10pm and she with dew her self from me and my daughter she wasn't spend any time with me or her and wasn't to even getting up with her tell she had to go to work at 3pm after a mth she start talk about having and open Marriage and sleeping with other people then she stop talk about it after i said no , a week later is cheated on me told me about but lied she said it was a mistake she was high and did even want to do it she was just affaid to tell him no and she also said it would never happen again
she stayed home for a week with me then started going out again ever day she stared lie about where she was going but still said it wouldn't happen again and she love me and only wanted me
will then she bought comdom lied about it till i go a copy of the reciept from the story then she said she bought them for her friend and i beleaved her about it
will on friday went i was a sleep she lft with out me knowing i woke up at 2.30 am and she was not home and no note she she got home at 6am
and started talking about an open marraige again
i ask her where she was i was over a friend watch move's that all
will then next day after i went out to a freind i came home to talk about an open marraige thimk about doing it then i said ok to it then asked have you had sex with him since the first time and she said no but i thought by looking at her that she was lieing so i askd about 20 more time promiseing i would get mad or leave her
so she told yes 2 time
one being about a mth ago and the other a week or two so keeping my promise i did get mad or leave
that nite i went for a few hours and she went to her friend house at 2:30 i went looking for her and found her at her friend
stay at her friend for a while that asked her to come out to the car to talk will after talk to her and putting 2 and 2 tought i fig the last time was just friday night first she said no ask her about 2 tine and then she said yes i asked if when she left that night if that what she had planned and she said no she did know he'd be there then she promised again it would happen again i asked hwhen i left at 3:30 if she would come home with me she said no she was going to watch a movie and didn't want to diss her friend so i left went home when i left at 1:30 pm she still was not home went looking for her and she was still at her freinds house i gt mad and told her it was over and i want a Divorce she said ok so it's now over since till her it was over she stared tell me ever thing wich help me to know i real want to leave here .let see she told me the first time was not a mistake she wanted to no presure and she also told me that she never plan on keeping her promise over never doing it again
after the first time she planned to do it more she said she liked sex more with him and she bought the condom for bother her and her friend
that she new that the guy was there on fri. when she left and she went there with plans on having sex with she said she want me for love and him for sex and i have not please her like he did in years she said stuff like she liked him in side of her touch her and she liked touch him she did stuff with him she did evaeb do with me
and it all she want to do was have sex with him and could stop thing about .she would go out with condom ever night just in cause she sall him .and the worst thing is she have him a blowjob sat morn then came home and kissed me
i know it over but i still have so mucj pain inside and i can't stop think about them two toghter or that she played me and thought she could have us both i'm just glad it's all over
but i'm still in pain
now she tring to play the victom here
say i Emotional abuse because i called her a slut
after she cheated on me
she also said i physacly abused her
beacuse we got in a pushing match after she told me and i slapped her
and also on friday she would let me leave for work she stode in front of the door so i grab her arm to pull her a way from it and left a buses
ahe hit me too but has called me stupid and othet names so she been abuseing me too. and did abuse me a lot more in the past.
she said she was alway fighting back and me
but i was real fighting back at her .
but i did do one thing realy wrong afater she told me about the first time about a mnt and a half later i snapped because i sall no real remose for what she did and to fine out later was still doing .one nite when she was play the victom of me not let what she did go and stop talking about it (i guess talk about my feel was to much for her)i first was tring to talk to her and she would then i laid beside her stared rubbing agast her is did tell me to stop the out of pain inside i mad a compent about liking on her side she go mad the next thing i know is so much pain and angry had built up in side i turn he on her knees and stared have sex with her at first it was ok then i mad a compent aboout her like in dog style and she then told me to stop a few time but i didn't for a min or two .
then i got up and she left and went to her friend she came back afew hours later after talking to her friend and said i raped her and she was going to call the cops and i'd never she i'm daugter again then she kissed my a few min later and said she would do that to me and then came on to me and want to have sex but we did because my daugter woke up but the next day did
i know i was wrong for doing it i guess it was all then pain coming out she had sex on her side and dog style with the other guy the first time
and she never have sex dog style with me i know because she said to stop it was rape
(may i should just turn myseld in to the cops for doing it) but she use all off this stuff to make the affair ok because i was then one alway in the wrong no her and the affair was ok because i mistreated her .but she mistreated me for year and i try to make it work and tried to treat her like a queen even though she treated me like sh!?
an walked all over me you almost 5 yr
she treated me so bad that i blocked most of the past 5yr out in denail of how bad it was hell the only time we got a long was after we got married and intill she stared going out .
and that only because i let her control my even move and did any thing to make her happy even though i wasn't i guess i just had to much and she could take that she could control me any more
we will be togeter 5yr in oct.
and marreid 3yr in nov.
not a told waste becasue i have my daugter and she my life and alway been
i guess i tried to hard for my daugter to have both parent togother wich is something i did have
but had to sarfice my happness for it and i can't do that anymore
she need to she us happy more the have use together pretending we are when where are not
i do love my wife have never real been inlove with her and the only resign we got married ws because she was preg. with my child.
wich i know now was the wrong resign to do it but i wanted my child to have the life i need have
now almost 3 yr later it hurt my daugter wit us being together .because my wife does want to be around me so she spends about 3 hour with my daugter a day or less and then leave to not be around me at less that want my wife say i hope that not a lie too because it will hurt my daugter if it that she does want here around to
but my guit tells be she doesn't because all she want to do is go out with her friends even if my daugter is cry for her to say she still leaves but i hope i'm wrong because my daugter need her mother in her life in know because my father wanted nothing to do with me i have not seen him in 10 yr and have seen him maybe 6 time after my parent splitted so that 16yr with out him in my life wich hurt me alot well i guess only time will tell

First of all, all abuse, by either party must STOP!! Don't do anything hasty or anything you may regret later(almost too late for that, I know). There is no excuse for your daughter to be dragged through this muck by either one of you!! If you and WW are still involving your daughter in this rollercoaster, then that too must STOP!

Have your read through the MB concepts? If not you should do so.
Have you seen an IC? If not, why not? You said yourself that issues from your past are impacting your judgement.

Know more than ever it's time to excercise control and good judgement.