My husband walked out on me and our 2 kids on July 18th. He told me at the time it was because sleep was more important to me than he was and he wasn't happy anymore. Some of that he is correct about. I am always tired and don't know why. However, last Thursday (8-15) I found out he is living with another woman. They work together and haven't really even known each other except for about 4 months including the one month they have been living together. They work together at the same place. She is older than him by 4 or 5 years and has an 8 or 9 year-old boy. We have 2 children 5 and 1. My husband was a good father and a wonderful husband before all of this. My problem is that I have filed for divorce because he doesn't want to give me the child support I need so I had to look out for me and my kids. I don't want to divorce my husband at all. I love him with every ounce of being in me. We have been married 5 years and together for 4 years beofre we married. I am feeling very bitter towards him and have thoughts of doing mean things to the woman. I know acting out like that won't make my husband come back, but I can't stop the anger. I am seeing a therapist. I have read alot of these messages, but they all talk about the husband living with his realative or still at home and it is kinda easier to convince him to stay. However, my husband is living with this other woman and has been for 4 weeks now. I am falling apart and don't know what I can do to attemp to save my marriage. I do love my husband with all my heart. Please help me!

If someone told me about this site four years ago, I think I would have save so much pain and misery in my marriage. That being said, you are doing thaking the right step on coming here. Read all the articles on this site and go to your local bookstore and read everything you can about saving a marriage, including Dr. Harley's stuff. Don't limit yourself on only this site. Do your homework and see a professional, but see someone that is a couple counselor and that is not currently divorce, like the one my W is seeing and getting lame [censored] advice.

Hang in there and be strong. Keep busy and work on your self esteem. If you have no energy, you might be going through depression. You need to change your routine, do something active. Exercise your mind as well as your body and soul.

Good Luck

AV

I know what you are going through i discovered my ws affair in jan 2001 and it was the most devastating experience i have ever encountered. The thing that brought me through was prayer. My friends and family thought i was going crazy because i was always muttering to myself, but it was me praying asking God to cover and shield me from the intense pain that i was feeling. another way i relieved my pain was to tell everyone i know and i mean everyone. Some how that helped me tremendously. About you wanting your husband home- at first i was afraid mine would leave me later i was afraid that he would not - he was so terrible it was like living with an alien, however to add a good note, he is still here he has broken off the affair and is making a real effort to keep us together we still have our quirks, but where he was totally insensitive, he has become more caring and in some areas our relationship is better.