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I need someone's help through what I feel is
a slow death. DDay was last night (8/25/02) he said he was away on a buisness trip and found out he was in town, just not with me.
We've had are ups and downs, we've been together almost nine years (not married, but living together 6 yrs.) I can't beilive the man who has spent the past week speaking to me of working out our relationship, left me alone on Sunday to be with someone else.
I don't know what to do! Do I leave? Do I stay? Do I call him? I don't know, what to do?
I love him, but I am so hurt and he says he is so confused?
What do I do!
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I have no words of advice, but I wanted to bump this up to get you some help. Hang in there!
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Hugs to you, Marilyn...
((((Marilyn))))
I suggest you read everything here on the boards. I would also recommend that you see your doctor about some mild anti-depressants. I was a basket case until I got on Celexa. I have been able to deal with my situation *much* better since I have started taking it.
Good luck!
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Marilyn,
Sorry that you find your self in all this pain.
you are just new to finding out about the A.So it is not a good time to make any decision.
Have you been in contact with him,Does he want to work this out?
Couples can make it after an A,but it takes lots of work for you both.With him doing alot of the work.I found out about my H A 2 years ago.We are doing alot better now,but it has been hard.
You will find that you are going to be a rollercoater ride for the next few months.With your emotions going crazy.
Again I am sorry for all the pain you are in.
overcome
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Marilyn,
I hope you read page 219 on the thread by Persistant. Cerri has posted a response to BH that I think you will find very helpful!
There are many wise and knowledgeable people on this discussion board who know and understand how you feel. Read, read, read, and then vent here all you need to. It's what kept me somewhat sane in the beginning when the emotional rollercoaster is so all consuming.
CSue
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Dear LH,
sorry to hear what you are going through, but this is a good place to find support from others who know what feelings you have. Try to read Dr. Harley's books, first Surviving an affair, the His needs/her needs, then Love Busters. Read the stories of others here.
I was as confused and hurt as you after d-day, but posting here and reading answers from the wise people on these boards made me see things clearer.
Right now you are in terrible pain and it all seems hopeless- but it is not hopeless!
Read, read , read and talk to us again.
Lots of strength...
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