my husband has been emotionall y abusive for the better part of 2 years and literally pushed me into the arms of his best friend. who became my lover....for 2months only,as this swept us away , i knew if God could do anything i better give him a chance to, as the closer my lover and i got, another couple of months and nothing else would have mattered at all.this is the strongest bond i have ever had, he is devistated, i borke contact, and miss him all the time, but i want to see if my husband gets help, and my lover is also constantly contacted(daily) by his needy wife(who left him 2 months ago to try it on her own)and he cant seem to break free due t guilt. i am hoping i did the right thing. i was totally convinced this was the one true love of my life from God, and the only reasoning i could use to break it off was i have faith if it is suppose dto be in the future, it will.any comments? please e mail me if you can offer support.........

Welcome!

I am sorry you are going through this pain. I really don't know what to say to you, other than if your husband is truly abusive, and won't seek help, then divorce him, *then* find another.

It is like socks and shoes, you have to put on your socks first, then your shoes. If you do them out of order, it doesn't work.

Your affair will feel like the strongest connection you ever had. Unfortunately, feelings are liars, and feelings change.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> i was totally convinced this was the one true love of my life from God </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am sure you were convinced of this. My WW is/was convinced of this as well. I personally don't believe that God blesses a marriage, then puts another in the picture to tear it asunder.

You are doing the right thing in breaking off contact with the OM. Try your best to work it out with your H. Read all the MB stuff, and get him into counseling with you. If it does not work out with your H, then you could divorce. THEN you would be free to find someone else.

Good luck!!

ST

p.s.

You may want to see your doctor about some mild anti-depressants. You will be going through some rough times, and they sure helped me.

<small>[ August 27, 2002, 08:15 AM: Message edited by: Sad Tiger ]</small>