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Is this cheating or unfaithfulness?
#417110 08/31/02 12:29 AM
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Hello and HELP!

I am somewhat new to these boards, have only posted a couple of other times on divorcing/divorced.

I found out tonite that my husband has been "flirting/socializing" online with several other women. (He found them on www.date.com) When I found he had been to taht website I asked him about it and lied (admitted it alter tonite) and said he was "Just looking to see how those types of sites work." Then, I found the e-mails. (This is on his laptop owned by his employer. If they found out he might be fired....) Would this be considered cheating?

I am so distraught right now. We have been having problems for some time but I always thought I could trust him....some old friends used to call him the "Boy scout." Not any more... What do you think?

Please - any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks so much....
Re: Is this cheating or unfaithfulness?
#417111 08/31/02 03:41 PM
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First, read up on the basic principles on this site.
Then, consider plan A.
Many christian authors and counselors agree that it is inappropriate for married people to spend time along with the opposite sex (other than spouse). Chatting and flirting, IMHO, and many others, is not only wrong, but a precurser to more blatant infidelity.
You need to dig down deep, to figure out why it is that there is so much emotional distance between you and your spouse. Talk with him about it, and how he's feeling, if he's willing. If not, then your best bet is to plan A, and spend a lot of time on your knees with God.
Re: Is this cheating or unfaithfulness?
#417112 08/31/02 04:23 PM
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The answer lies in you. How do you feel about this? It's how YOU feel that matters..

Actually, I'm not sure of the difference between cheating and unfaithfulness.

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