Short of the long...
I found out (digging in his stuff) he has been having the A for 6 months.
He denied it, I showed himproof, he still denied, he admited to "talking" she called me, and told me yes, Sex 6 times in the last 6 months, while you were out of town.
Ok he admitted, cried said sorry, and is ashamed to ask for forgivness. But now he does want to fix it, and I think I do to, I love him, but I am so hurt and afraid.
Ok, he is at a hotel now, we are seperated, headed for the big D now...
He is sad, he says he is addicted to sex (I believe it, he really does have issues, and I enabled his addiction). But he lies so well, and I just dont know what is safer for me, plan A or Plan B.

PS this is both of our 2nd marriage, we have been together 6 years, married almost 3. I have 3 kids, he has 1.
I am 28, he is 34.
This is the first PA since we were married, before he had 1 PA and at least 2 EA.
Am I a sucker?
Please help.

<small>[ September 06, 2002, 05:41 PM: Message edited by: Truth_Seeker ]</small>

Truth_Seeker,

Please read as much as you can about MB concept ... I assume you are well rehearsh on it. This is my 2¢. You could run if you don't want your M otherwise the answer to plan A/B is neither. Read up LB ... understood well what it is and learn on how to negotiate, read on POJA. You should seek amends ... he has to show he is willing to work on M. NC letter and all its monitoring should be in place, specially gave accountability on all $$$ to the ¢¢¢ !. Tell H that the condition to get back is getting help on Sex Addictions (counseling), getting MB conseling on how to give 4 gifts of love or 4 rules of recovery. Also as part of your tasks ... get it ready for yourself to be independent financially or at least you have a way to support yourself. What I am implying is there will be no next time and you are ready to run.

Good Luck -RH-

Read up on "How A should end" section either on this website or SAA.