Hi there everyone,<P>I feel very positive today. I can finally breath due to little baby dropping in womb. I am hoping that it will not be long before labor starts. This is my second child and according to "What to Expect when Expecting", dropping happens close to the onstart of labor. Is this true? I am anxious for this baby to be born. He has had a lot to deal with while growing in utero. Such as:<P>1. Mommy discovered daddy having an affair.<P>2. Mommy left daddy with big brother Christopher. Good boy Christopher became holy terror to all those around him due to change. <P>3. Mommy couldn't eat/sleep for weeks due to emotional/hormonal imbalance due to H's affair.<P>4. Mommy sipped on one glass of wine for two weeks each night to help with nerves. I did not touch alcohol with first child's pregnancy. <P>5. Mommy has been an emotional mess.<P> I have been in recovery with H since July 5,(affair discovery) and no, things are not close to being good, but, hopefully, going in the right direction.<P>I had a bad thought last night and confronted husband. I asked him if he decided to stay in the marriage because he wanted to see me through this pregnancy w/o guilt. He said that he saw the new baby as our new chance for a new life together.<P>I MISS BEING ABLE TO TRUST!!!!!!<P>I have always been the most trusting woman. I hate the fact that I can not and do not believe my husband anymore. Hopefully, this changes as he rebuilds love deposits in my love bank.<P>Well, wish me luck. I hope to deliver soon (H will be at my side) Be happy for us. There is nothing happier than bring a new life into this world. I just hope it's a world full of love, hope and trust.

Hi,<P>How exciting!! I can fully understand how you feel. I was pregnant w/ my 3rd when my life fell apart. I was skinnier at 5 mo pregnant than I was before I got pregnant. I too had those occasional glasses of wine just to calm my nerves. I know I didnt take care of myself at all and at the time I just didnt think of what I was doing. My son (9 mo old now) came out bigger than my other 2 kids, he is such a healthy little guy. Thank God! I was not too happy that I was pregant (it was a BIG surprise)and thats sad to say but this baby has turned out to be such a joy to both of us. Now when I see him w/the baby and how crazy he is about him - I think does he realize how close he came to losing him, I mean day to day living w/ this little guy not just picking him up on a Sunday for the afternoon. I think he does realize it now. I hope your H does too. Good Luck - I hope its soon, let us know.......Magoskid

Hi Magoskid,<P>when I discovered my pregnancy, my husband was anything but overjoyed. Affair had probably started by then and I am sure that he felt trapped.<P>I had a hard time of it for the first three months (morning sickness that lasted all day) and this gave my H a lot of opportunity to "steal time" away from our family.<P>Funny thing is that when I did finally discover the affair (July 5) I called OW and she did not know that I was pregnant. What a man I have... lies to his W and lies to his OW.<P>Doctor says that this baby is going to be BIG and I hope that is a good (healthy) sign. <P>What a thing for us to have gone through. Dealing with infidelity is soooo hard enough, but to be pregnant also. Life is not fair.<P>I am glad to see that you and your H are making it work out. Good luck with your little bundle.<P>If I have a girl I could name her "HOPE" if I have a son I could name him ....???? any suggestions?<P>

Congratulations in advance. Although this doesn't compare to your trauma, my dad was given about 6 months to live when I was about 3 months pregnant with my 10 year old. (He's still living) Anyway...stress-a-rama...but you know what? My 10 year old was a happy healthy baby and she is still my easiest going...so no harm done.<P>Enjoy this precious gift!<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Thanks for your reply FHL,<P>I know that "life happens" during pregnancy. And life has no choice but to go on. But, as you well know, you can't help to worry. I have just recently read that sitting in front of your computer while pregnant might not be a good thing to do... well, I never thought of that and I have relied on this computer to get me through so much of the pain of infidelity. One can only hope everything turns out fine.<P>Here's hoping the the health of your family is great during the holidays and new year.<BR> <P>

It won't be long now!! (I'm addressing the "question" in your subject heading). As the mother of three, I can tell you that you've got very little time left--go to the bathroom and relish that no one knocks on the door. Take a bath for the same reason! I wish I could have more. Who knows. We've been looking at fertility clinics in NC that specialize in tubal reversals.

Hi there,<P>my 2 babies both dropped with about 3 weeks to go. I was as big as a house, with both of them. So uncomfortable, couldn't walk, or sleep, barely fitted behind the wheel of the car.!!! I didn't drink at all with our first, but with our second I had the occasional glass of wine. My obstetrician said that it's quite ok to have 1 glass per day, but no more. And no hard liquor, just wine. My ob. was so cool - I had a terrible time tearing etc, and he told me to put my 'you know what' in the sun and fresh air. We had just moved into our new house - can you just imagine what the neighbours would have thought.!!! When I told my ob. that - he laughed too. Very cool guy.<P>My H and I were still happily married when both were born, the youngest is now 18 mths.<P>I wish you all the very best - at least your H is going to be with you, and is looking forward to a new life with you and your family. That is so great.<P>I'll be thinking of you. Big hugs<P>Jo

You said that if you have a girl you could call her Hope. If you have a boy you could call him Chance - a second chance for your husband.<P>FET<P>------------------<BR>Make each day count.

wafflestoo,<P>If a boy - maybe you could name him "Will" - there is alot about the will to stay together and the iron will needed to be together!!!<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Congradulations waffles! I could not let this post pass by! I was 8mo with second living child when my H confessed that my "friend" (also 8mo pg) was pregnant with his child, not her soon-to-be-ex-husbands. I won't begin to describe the pain I've been through. But after a 4 mo separation we've been reconciled for a year, and it feels GREAT!!! And our daughter IS named Hope, no kidding. And despite the incredible stress I was under she is easier than our fussy firstborn! Maybe God does know how much we can handle; I don't know.<P>Re: your question, I think the baby can drop up to a week or two before birth, or right before. (Not what you want to hear right now!) Get sleep while you can, just in case! <P>God bless.

Congratulations on this step to the delivery room. Consider yourself lucky that your baby dropped. My first did not "drop" at all she ended up being a c-section because she would not even get close to birth canal even after 12hours of intense labour(contractions started when my water broke and were 2-5 minutes apart 1-3 minutes long from the start). My next 2 didn't drop until labour actually started. So I didn't get that breathing space in the last few weeks of my pregnancies.<BR>Anyway, I guess my experience is not much of a guage but from what I've read and heard you've probably got 2-3 weeks to go. So try to take this time to relax and pamper yourself.<P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by Patient Love (edited December 15, 1999).]

I was 7 mos pregnant with our 2nd when I found out about my H's affair, which had started only one month earlier. He left me immediately. It's hard enough to accept his affair, but I really struggle with the fact that the man I thought I knew would walk out on me when I was pregnant. <P>Needless to say, the stress was enormous. I worried about the effects on the pregnancy (I lost 9 lbs in 2 weeks and never gained another lb for the 3rd trimester). After the birth, I worried that my depression would affect the baby's development. My OB was extremely supportive, and my pediatrician was very reassuring.<P>My H was never really willing to work on recovery, and we are now getting divorced. The good news is that my baby, now 9 mos old, is the happiest, healthiest little angel you can imagine! As I recover and get stronger, I'm finding more and more joy in my life and with my children. <P>I know it's frustrating to feel like he stayed with you 'just' because of the pregnancy. But it shows a decency and commitment on his part that my H just didn't have. I know its not the same as having a faithful husband. But it sounds like yours is a basically good man who made a mistake. I truly hope you can both move past this and rebuild something wonderful for yourselves and your children. <P>And, by the way, being a single mom is okay. I wouldn't wish it on anyone, but it's no longer the terrifying prospect it was at the beginning. You WILL BE OKAY!!!

Could always be worse. Could be the other woman pregnant with his child as in my case. Be thankful you share this even though I know it should be a fun time and not the emotional struggle you are having to suffer through. It may just be what saves you. Hang in there. What doesn't destroy you will make you stronger.<P>Jenny,<BR>So good to see you still around. I have thought of you often and hope things are going well for you.<BR>

Hi Wafflestoo;<BR>I rarely post here but I read often...<P>I was pretty much in your shoes exactly one year ago.<P>Found out when I was 7+months along with my 4th (planned), lost 26 lbs plus the pregnancy weight by the time she was born.<P>Baby arrived on schedule -without dropping-via c-section, an average size, although smaller than my others. H attended the birth, but the future of our marriage was still uncertain at that point.<P>We are celebrating her first birthday this Sunday, after renewing our marriage vows on Saturday.<P>A year can make a BIG difference!<P>Oh,Baby's name is Angela....my angel who got me through Hell and back.<P>Wishing you a wonderful delivery!!<P>Taz<P>

Thanks everyone!<P>Such wonderful replies, so positive and cheerful. <P>I am saddened by the fact that so many of you have gone through this similar experience, but the wealth of your wise words, courage and hope have given me some strength that I need to get through the final stages in this wonderful event.<P>I must say... it has been a pleasure to hear so many of your post being "Happy replies". I feel that we need a positive twist at this site by some of you that have "made it" or have had good positive experiences along the way. Thanks everyone!

To you all, My heart goes out to you. I had tears in my eyes when I saw all the hard times you all went through. It also amazes me how positive you all are. I wish every one of you the best.<P>------------------<BR>Infatuation is a "feeling"<BR>True Love is a "choice"<P>

about the cropping i am no help....with both of mine i was enduced....I dont know what a normal labor and delivery is....here are a few suggestions for names...I ma not weird i was going on the love,starting over theme.<P>girls: Faith, Cherish or Dawn(new beginning)<BR>boys: Lucky.....<P>------------------<BR>:) I will love my husband "Always & Forever" :)<P>

You never can tell what they're going to do. Mine dropped started labor and was born, all within 5 hours. In fact, it was less than 20 hours since my last ob appt and he felt I was right on schedule for the due date 3 weeks away!!<P>Blessings to all of you.<P>Lori