My wife and I are coming up on our 20th wedding anniversary. Over the last three years it has been a bumpy ride to say the least. About three years ago my Wife and I and another couple (our best friends) were spending a lot of time together. We would drink and play cards and other games. There was always flirting going on between everybody. One thing always leads to another and then we would find ourselves playing strip games. My wife and I would talk about this afterwards and I would assure her nothing would happen. Well as it always does, something happened. I started sneaking around with this other women (my wife’s best friend). It lasted about three weeks. We never had sex (which my wife does not believe still). But the damage was done. I have spent the last three years trying to make up for it. I have been the "almost" perfect husband to no avail. Now I think my wife has been seeing this other guy (my best friend). I think it has been going on for a year or so. My question is, how do I confront them without driving my wife away?

<small>[ September 17, 2002, 06:09 AM: Message edited by: hank64 ]</small>