MY WIFE AND I AHVE BEEN MARRIED 29YRS NOW WE WERE VERY YOUNG WHEN WE GOT MARRIED I WAS 16 AND SHWE WAS 14 IN MARCH SHE LEFT ME FOR THE MAN NEXT DOOR AFTER I GOT HER TO COME HOME AND SHE TOLD IT WOULD NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN BUT THIS LAST MONDAY I FOUND OUT SHE WAS STILL TALKING TO HIM SHE SAID THAT IS ALL BUT SHE HAD BEEN TELLING ME SHE WASN'T TALKING TO HIM ARE ANYTHING BEFORE THAT BUT SHE LIED TO ME AGAIN SHE IS TELLING ME SHE DON'T KNOW WHAT SHE WANT RIGHT NOW AND I NEED TO GIVE HER SOME MORE TIME SHE NEEDS TO GET HER HEAD STRAINGHT ON HER ON WITH KNOW HELP FROM ME ARE HIM BUT SHE STILL NEEDS TO SEE HIM BUT SHE DON'T WANT TO LOOSE ME I DON'T UNDERSTAND SHE KNOW I LOVE HER AND HE IS TELLING HER HE LOVE HER SHE SAID HER MIND IS SO MESSED UP SHE IS NOT SURE WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW I WORK STRANG HRS AT WORK AND I WORK NIGHT I HAVE AGREED TO LET HER SEE HIM WHEN I'M WORKING BUT NOT WHEN I'M HOME SO HER CAN FIND OUT IN HER MIND WHAT SHE WANTS WE HAVE BOTH AGREED TO THIS THAT IS MMY WIFE AND MYSELF HE DON'T KNOW YET MY QUESTION IS SHOULD I TELL HER SHE HAS TO GIVE ME A ANSWER ON WHAT SHE IS GOING TO DO IN A WEEK A MONTH OR WHAT THIS IS KILLING ME INSIDE PLEASE REPLY OH YES I DO LOVE HER MORE THEN ANYBODY

Hi and welcome to MB.

You are in great emotional pain right? Your W claims to be confused.

Well you need to first calm yourself down. Do this by reading the concepts section at the top of this page and then go out and get the books surviving an affair and his needs/her needs.

Do you have children? This affects them also. I know you love your W but don't let her manipulate you into enabling her A. That is not love, that is cruel.

Therefore, you need to set your boundaries. Association with anyone who takes her away from her family is wrong. Don't give her permission to associate with such characters. That would be like blessing the A.

Read up and get a good MC. Talk with them. If you can do some phone counseling with Steve or Jennifer, then try it. They are good.

Let us know how you are doing.

take care,
L.