My wife sent an email telling the lesbian at work
that whatever relationship they have is over. And to never communicate with her ever again. The lesbian confronted and asked my wife why she is ending the friendship, my wife told her it was the best decision for her and her family. She was mad.
I liked hearing that, but then I asked about the guy she's been having the affair with, and when she is going to send an email to him ending it. She says she doesn't want to do it that way, she doesn't feel it's necessary and she just wants to stop talking to him and he will get the message.
They have been having this affair for a while now and there was an episode at her employee christmas dance last year where she snuck off to slow dance with him and I caught her. She stopped talking to him for a few months and I never thought about it again, now it's started up again and i found out that it's gotten to kissing in the elevator. It obviously didn't work the last time that she "just stopped talking to him" or we wouldn't be in this mess. So I am vigilant that I need her to send this email and let me see what she is sending, she fought with me for an hour about it. I keep asking her if some tiny part of her wants to hold on to him, and or if she has feelings for him. She denys it. She says she hates that everytime she sees me it has to be this big conversation about what our next step is. And that she doesn't look forward to seeing me. What can I do, I can't move on and try to forgive if she won't make a clean break. Heck she still has to work with both of them every day. I need something.
What to do?
