found out four weeks ago that my H had been involved with his co worker for over a year. travelling together on business, having lunch at work, etc. he admitted to it and says he is sorry and wants things to work between us. however, they still work closely together. that bothers me. what can i do about that? please give me whatever advice you can.

mini:

Welcome to MB. Learn as much as you can basic concept of MB ... ENs, LB$, LB, plan A/B etc. Also read SAA & HNHN. In your case please read "How A should End". Follow it to dotted line.

Good luck. -RH-

I second the advice by the previous poster! Read everything on this site, order Surviving An Affair. Make no life altering decisions while you're reeling and unstable emotionally. Mentally segment your friends into groups that include an inner circle that you can let your hair down around to become your support system, and begin to think about ways to grow YOU.

When I was early in dealing with my H affair, I found a book at the library that I checked out. I will always remember the elderly librarian whispering to me that if I needed to renew "How to Win Your Husband Back from the Other Woman" (or a title close to something like that) I could just do it over the phone because three weeks might not be enough time. As I look back, she must have been speaking from experience. Anyway - a silly story to relate that you need information and you need support. This site is the best! And the folks that come here can help you through this. Post often!

pendragon

welcome...just wanted to say you are getting good advice here and to let you know you are not alone. Hang in there. Take deep breaths and long hot baths. Remember to eat drink and sleep.
Pamper yourself. You have to take care of yourself.

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Sorry to welcome you here, but glad you found us in your time of need.

I know it's easier said than done...but H and OW should not work together any longer. "No contact" is a must. Is it at all possible for one of them to get a new job, or at least switch departments at their company? Is he willing to consider that at all?

straycat,
i agree with you. and that is why it bothers me so much that they work together. in fact, they work very closely together....they have a lot of contact. he's her boss.
she has asked to be relocated to another state. however, an interview date has not been set yet. her resume has been sent 4 weeks ago but nothing yet. i am also concerned that even if they work in different offices, they can still meet on business trips, so on. they had the A while they went on numerous trips together.