I caught my H and ow on 9-22. He was gone for 4 days, back - said he wanted to stay and work it out - Now, he has left for 10 days. No sign of him. Took nothing with him. Not even clothes. He has left a business partner that is trying to make a decision of what to do - (I'm on all the loans for this)
I'm sure he's with her - I can't believe he is running like this - Stress, guilt?? I'm so scared he has just deserted it all and leaving me to deal with it. (Not like him) This will be devastating to me financially, not to mention the stress and emotions I'm in now. I really want him back to work on the m. I guess I need an attorney to try and protect myself from further financial burden. (business settlement)

I need help/advice/support

roseyheart,

Welcome to MB. Learn as much as you can about MB you need it. I don't know which state you live and your local state law. I would consult a lawyer right away, find out about how long you could file missing person and how long before it is consider abandonment. Focus on how you could survive this w/o your H, you sound as a very strong woman, you could do it and many did. Don't try to second guess or give excuses out for WH, just focus on how you could be the strong one here. Your H will show up one day 'till then you have to do what you have to. Keep posting & venting here.

-RH-

<small>[ October 09, 2002, 05:03 PM: Message edited by: redhat ]</small>

Roseyheart...if you haven't contacted the police yet...do so. You do NOT know where he is, you only believe you do. You are likely correct, but don't let that stop you. Tell them what has happened but make sure that he is safe. Leaving without his belongs sounds as if he's not thinking clearly at all...and that is not only stupid, it can be dangerous.

Yes, see a lawyer after you file the police report. Start getting your affairs in order so that if he is "running", you'll have a base for yourself and a plan for the future. I hate to say this, but plan what is best for you and your future without him in it, then if he comes home, you're ahead of the game.

Keep us informed! We care!

Thank you for your support - I did put out a missing persons - I know he was OK as he has used my credit card (I've since cancelled it and everything else he had with him) Still no word - I will be going to attorney next week for some advice and to start a plan - I live in Missouri-Hopefully, I can legally get my name off the truck loan (he's driving it)very soon - The business always paid the payment but the partner will not do that now - I also think I need to try and come to a settlement with him-through the courts if necessary - The personal debt will not be managable so this is another "problem" that will need to be delt with soon. I don't think he will return, at least not very soon. I am going to begin to pack up his clothes so if he does show up, he can have them. I really think I may be dealing with a "mental" issue with him. That or I have been with a very good "con" man for the past 9 years. Thanks for letting me vent here -