Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 6,950
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jan 2002
Posts: 6,950 |
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">We have talked about it countless times over the last few weeks and I explained how I felt about it, without being judgmental or mean. He said he understood and wouldn't do it again. I think that is a good sign. He also told me that from now on, I was welcome to go with him to breakfast or where ever he wanted to go, when he's not working. Maybe this crap was all in my head. What do you think? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No that crap was not in your head, that crap was in the lack of respectful communication between you two and in his hiding his viewing of porn from you.
If you haven't read the Harley book 'Love Busters: overcoming habits that destroy romantic love' I urge you to do so. It shows how different types of negative behaviors towards our loved one, damages the relationship.
Make_This_Work you've got a great positive attitude that will serve you well in your M.
Good luck and God bless.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Oct 2002
Posts: 15
Junior Member
|
|
Junior Member
Joined: Oct 2002
Posts: 15 |
Thanks to both of you. Yes, Leslie. It does makes a lot of sense to differ between because of, and for. I understand totally. I am also happy to hear that your H has found other ways to calm himself and has stopped viewing the porn. Thanks for the encouragment, coffee! Need a little of that sometimes, things start to torture my mind so bad that I obsess about it. THANK YOU!
Orion
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 967
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jun 2001
Posts: 967 |
It is definitely a signal of a problem. And many people start with 'just looking' and end up in chat rooms, and have physical affairs with people they meet on line. It's not a "little" issue. If you look at how many rapists have reported starting out by looking at porn and how it escalates, you wouldn't take it so lightly.
It is very disrespectful. Especially when these men have wives who are willing to satisfy them in bed. It's also selfish and 'the easy way out' with no intimacy involved.
|
|
|
|
1 members (glemateria),
1,544
guests, and
149
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,625
Posts2,323,528
Members72,061
| |
Most Online8,273
Aug 17th, 2025
|
|
|
|
|
|
