MPELE,
here's a link to a website that may help:
Tips for Checking Up On Your Spouse's Online Activities Tips for Checking Up On Your Spouse's Online Activities
The easiest way is to double click on "my computer"; double click on your "c" drive; double click on the "windows" folder ... from there you can check out the following folders and get a pretty good idea where someone has been: double click on the "cookies" folder, the "history" folder, the "temp" folder, and the "temporary internet files" folder (it is very helpful to have your internet connection active so you can actually view the sites that have recently been visited). Actually, you should be deleting the files in these folders occasionally to enhance your computer's performance.
If you're on AOL - you can access even more information by double clicking on "my computer"; double click on your "c" drive; double click on the "America On Line" folder; double click on the "organize" folder; and double click on your spouse's screenname "file". A window will pop up asking you what program you want to open the file with. Be sure there is NO check mark in the "Always use this program to open this type of file" box. Scroll down and select "notepad", "wordpad", or "winword" -- double click. Be patient, you may see a lot of hieroglyphics after the file opens, but keep scrolling down. You'll be amazed at the info you can garner from this method - address books, email messages, saved files, stored passwords, etc. Don't forget to check out the other files in the "organize" folder using the same method.
Also on AOL - be sure to check out the "cache" and the "download" folders.
If you are still in doubt, there are several relatively inexpensive software programs that will provide all of the information you will ever want to know about your spouse's online activities. Before you invest, however, may I suggest going to
www.webroot.com and downloading their free 15-day trial version of WinGuardian, an easy, yet comprehensive tool designed to provide you with actual "screen shots" of everything that's going on when your spouse is online - even recording keystokes and chat messages.
Yet more information from another source.....
Check the history on Internet Explorer. To set it to track history go to Tools, then internet options. The general tab has information on how many days of history are saved.
Go to mail sites in the history to see if DH has "secret email accounts".
You can read email in that is stored in Microsoft Outlook and then reset it to unread. Simply right click on the email that you opened and click on "mark as unread". Hubby is never the wiser that you opened it.
If DH knows about the history and deletes it, open up Windows Explorer. Click on the plus sign next to "Windows" and all the windows components will drop down. Open the cookie files and the temporary internet files. It will tell each web site DH had been to and the date it was last accessed.
Snoop around in the program files to see if DH has downloaded any chat programs and taken the icon off the desktop and start menu option.
Basically snoop around in EVERY single file through Windows Explorer. Open ones that seem fishy. If your computer doesn't recognize the format and asked what file to associate it with be sure to uncheck the "always open this file with the program box". Be careful not to delete anything that is a program component or you could corrupt other important shared files. (It would really stink if you deleted DH chat program through Win Ex and it shared something with your checkbook software and now you can't get your account information!!!)
If all else fails buy Spector Software. It records everything that is done at the computer. It records keystrokes, programs accessed, and takes pictures of screens. It's great for finding out the passwords to his secret email accounts, membership info and passwords to porn and chat sites, etc. The program hides itself so DH doesn't realize you're watching. I downloaded a ton files to a write-able CD for rock hard proof and put it in a safe place just in case.
spectorsoft.com
After all that snooping and opening files be sure to clear the document history or DH will know you were looking around. To clear the document history, click on the start button, click on settings, click on start menu and task bar. Open the tab for start menu programs and click on the "clear" button under documents menu. You may want to clear out the Internet History sites that you checked in case DH opens the history, he'll see that someone was looking at his beloved Suzy B.J. while he was at work. Open the history, right click on the link you want to delete and then click on delete.
