please understand, i believe anyone here to look for help has the right to be heard. if you're the betrayed or the betrayer all that is asked of you is that you are here to find help in healing. this woman is NOT here for either reason. she is here as the other woman, to try to justify her actions in hurting another woman. she has no intention of listening to those who wish to help, and only seems to be here to take a sick kind of pleasure in rubbing the betrayed's nose in their pain. in her last post, she almost came right out and said nyah, nyah, nyah! there are many on this site who would not only like to hear your advice, but will listen and take it to heart. look for those who actually want to do what's right and don't waste time or energy on a person who knows what's wrong and does it anyway.

kristawny,

Yes, many of BS has replied to similiar post to WS/OP and it is more popular than true hurting BS's. You have to understand too that a lot of BS here banging their head to "save" their spouse or changing WS's mind w/ no result so "saving" or "changing" mosana is kind of healing process in itself. I am personally staying away after one or two replies. Look how many replies she got.

However I found soo many BS/WS just post once and never come back ... are real ? Who knows and who are we to judge ?.

-rh-

redhat, who are we to judge? we are the ones trying to heal from an agony so great that it shakes us to our very soul. we are the ones who are told that the adultery was our own fault, that because we weren't passionate enough we deserved to have our hearts torn apart. we are the ones who came here to heal only to find a woman who insists on posting on a board clearly intended for those trying to save a relationship, not to destroy one. this should be a safe place, where there is no fear that we'll have to read the words of a mistress who brags that her mm spends most his time with her leaving his wife sitting home with kids. there are boards for women like mosana, and her insistence on staying in spite of the numerous attempts to point out her mistake in where she's posting can only be construed as cruelty. if she was truly here to heal, or to apoligize and look for answers about why she would allow this to happen to herself that would be different. instead she comes here apparently looking for someone to tell her she's not doing anything wrong. her actions show no remorse, no morals, and no respect for the wounded. child molesters should never be allowed in daycare, nor should people currently involved in continuing an affair be allowed among the betrayed. especially when there are so many who could not only use but be helped by the advice of others. if you read the post she started, most new ones are from people who are answering the question not realizing that every answer she gets only validates her presence here. that is my problem with her posts, as well as the emotional pain she causes in her attacks on the bs and charges that they asked for it.

Actually, she mentioned a board especially for that purpose-TOW. Perhaps she will feel 'more welcome' there. I was horrified when I happened there and read some of their posts. Very sad indeed.

I went to TOW website once...read one thread...it was absolutely disgusting...and extremely hurtful! So I have never gone back. And when Mosana posts, it takes away this "safe place" for me. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> It's sad, because this should be a place of support for BS.

kristawny,
Mosana knew what she is going to get when she post here and she still seeking. She is honest in the sense to tell her real story, not to inflict anyone. Probably she wanted someone to convince her to change ... We should let others to do the work and personally I don't even lurk past the 3rd post let alone replying. If one could change her mind, it could mean another chance for MWH's M. Also reading her posts you might get the insight of an OW's mind !. I know it is upsetting but that is what many WH hear from their OW !!!. However I agree with you after a while she should go away to TOW & we should refrained ourself from posting.

One other thing that you could do ... send an email to moderator to boot her out of here. This is a public forum that is privately funded for saving M.

-rh-

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by straycat:
<strong>... It's sad, because this should be a place of support for BS.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Incorrect, this board is for anyone who want to safe M ... we have many WS/xWS that have helped BS, even OW too. Shannon11 is one of them, she learn to stop A w/ MM and seek refuge here.

As I said to krista, if enough people complaint to moderator, mosana days are numbered.

-rh-

redhat, you said it yourself, this board is for anyone who wants to save a marriage. which is exactly why this person has no business here! she's not saving a marriage, she's destroying one, with great pride! and since she has been told by several people many times that her presence has become hurtful and she continues to post, she is here to inflict pain on others! the mere sight of her name has become a sort of trigger of itself, a reminder of all the pain that we've managed to work through. you're right about informing the moderator though. maybe if all who are bothered by this person write in, she will be stopped. if i wanted to know the view point of the other woman, i'd be on their website reading about the pride of sleeping in a betrayed wife's bed with her husband. instead i came here for safe place to heal, and her being here with her venomous posts blaming us is hurting. i just thought people should know what they are getting into when they open her posts.

kristawny,

You get no argument from me ... I just want to point out that we should give a chance for WS or OP so that BS's M could be safe and OP will be xOP. Mosana's post is a good example of OW's mind works ... yes it is very hurtful.

-rh-

This issue is being addressed at the moderator level.

The guidelines of proper decorum and use of the forums at MB is very clear and will be used to protect all members who need and wish to offer to support to those interested in building marriages.

Abusive language and encouragement of destructive attitudes and behaviors, to marriages in general and individulas in particular, will be grounds for removal from the forum.

OneGoing.