I have been married for 3 years and at this moment i am expecting my first child , i am 8 months pregnant , i noticed my husband changed all of the sudden like 3 months ago , he starting to go out alone , didnt come home all night , (he told me that he was in the ship , by the way my husband is in the Navy ) but i just got a feeling that something was wrong , somehow i found a bussiness card and on the back it was a email addreess , so i start investigating somehow i got the girl's phone number i called her and told her that she knew my husband , she was amazed to find out that he was married , she didnt know ,basically she was in chock , like me so we agree to confront my husband together and we did it ! he was is shock ,he didnt know what to say or do , i just can close my eyes and lived that situation all over again , he told us that he did wrong , that he never meant to this to happen
,after she was gone , he told me that he realized how much i mean to him , to forgive him and i did
but i never tought it would be so hard to forget everything , what makes me mad is that he never tought about us about the baby and me , that same day that i found out everything , i went to the hospital ,because i was having contractions thank God nothing happened but still ..
now i cry all day , just thinking , those memories are hunting my live , i had some bad thoughts , what keeps me going is my son , please
help me i need some words of advice , dont get me wrong i love my husband but is so hard !!!
i know we were having some problems ,but i never thought he would do such a thing , i guess i was naive , i feel so alone , really i feel bad
please help me !
sincerely
Erika

First, you should sit back and think about what problems you are/were actually having. Do you and your husband communicate? How long did you know each other prior to marriage? Did you have problems trusting him before you tied the knot?

I think your husband was sorry for getting caught. If you and the girl hadn't confronted him, he probably would have never said anything. My opinion? Don't brush it under the rug. You have to move on, but don't ignore it. It's alright to forgive, because we all make mistakes, and want to be forgiven. But be watchful for any other lies he may tell, and make sure you tell him when you don't believe him. For God's sake, you have a baby on the way, and you need to know your husband is going to be there for you and not seeking another woman. How old is your husband?

yeah , but i think it wasnt my mistake , i did everything a wife did , he is 25 years old , he says that it was the problem that we are having ,like financial but,he said he felt stress and he said it took the wrong way to cure that . i have never done anything wrong that i know of ,actually he told me that i woman like he will never fine , that he knows that my love to him is deep but he just dont know why that happen .. i really dont know what to think how to act when i am with him , my family doesnt know anything about , my dad had noticed that i am somehow different ,and i just dont know what to say to my family , if i said something they would never see him the same way ..
and we really rush into M ,after 6 months that we met .