I am new to this website and find it conforting to me to know that other people beside me are hurting and trying to deal with the situation. My H has had many A with different women. I believe most of them were one night stands or women he knows from the topless bar. My H is part ownership of the club. It hurts me to find out that he's their. My H has been with this OW for 3 years. He has known her since childhood. My husband and I have 4 children together. The OW and H have a 19 month old child together. Im confused about what to do about our marriage. He has told me the A is over but I have caught in with her or OW has told me they are still intimate with each other. Im tired of his constant LIES. My husband lives with me but is gone alot in the evenings. Could anyone please give me some type of advice.

wifeynpain ,
welcome to MB's.

I'm so sorry that you are feeling such pain. My feelings are with you and I can imagine how you feel.

I don't really know if I can give you any advice as my situation was a complete different story.

How long have you been married and how old are you/H and the children??

It is difficult to work on a relationship when honesty isn't playing the main role.

From what you write, I get the impression that you and your H don't talk about your relationship or am I wrong???
It just might be the time in your life to decide what you want your life to be like for the future.

You have done the first step by coming to MB and talking about your problems. You will get alot of help and comfort here and alot of great suggestions.

You might consider to go over to the "Recovery Board". Don't be shy, we all know what you are going through and if we can help you, believe me, we will!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care
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Blond blossom, Thank you for responding. I don't know how to put my age or information about my self and H on the bottom of my post. My H says he will be honest about everything concerning OW and OC.
I would always bring up the situation with him and OW and he would listen but very rarely respond to anything. I hope to hear from you soon.
once again thank you!