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<small>[ November 13, 2002, 01:13 PM: Message edited by: newlywednsad ]</small>
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newlywednsad,
First of all, welcome to MB, you have come to a good place.
Your husband sounds just like me when I was a newlywed. Boy have I learned alot since then. I suggest you buy the book "His needs Her needs" you can find it on this website if you go to the top of this page and click on "bookstore"
Unfortunatly when a couple gets maried many times the man feels like he has reached the goal and the thrill of the hunt is now over so to speak. This is a very dangerous and common thing that men do only because we were never realy taught how to manage and mantain a healthy marraige. This book is a God send and will help him to understand the dinamics of a healthy marraige. If he is not into reading I suggest you be honest with him and tell him that you ARE NOT HAPPY!! Then insist that you both read this book together. A good way to do this is if you are going on a long drive, read it to him. Or when you go to bed at night.... Trust me, in no time at all he will look forward to the next chapter.
Good luck and God Bless you both,
SH
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Get your husband to read some of the messages on this site and let that decide him what sort of marriage he wants. I was married 32 years before it happened to me...please don't let it happen to you.
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Thank-you both for the replies. I ordered the His Needs, Her Needs book. We'll see if he reads it and if he'll change. I feel like I do all the work for our relationship, I feel as if I do all the searching to make it better. I sent him several passages from this sight, he has only read one of them. . .ahhhhhhh what more can I do? I feel so hurt and lost. How do I let go of the strip club night? How do I help him change, without forcing him to do something he does not wan tot do, how do I let him back in and let him know how serious I am about what happened and how I feel? I do I show him I am not happy, but do not want ot leave?
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