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Feeling vengeance
#418631 11/08/02 04:20 PM
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My husband confessed A to me about 4 months ago. Girl that he knew, offered no info other than he told her it was over, he felt guilty and wanted to stay married to me and keep family (3 kids). However, I felt like I was dealing with it okay until recently. Lots of resentment..even feeling like having my own secrets. I know this isn't right, but somehow I feel like for the last 20 years I have given him my life and turned down lots of "hits" from other men because of my commitment and now I regret it. Any advice...?
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Lonely, I suspect you are feeling this way because maybe you're thinking that if you knew he'd do such a cruel thing, you could have had somebody who mabye would have been better to you? Because he broke your trust, shattered your ideas of a (near) perfect marriage? 20 years is a long time. I don't know, i am guessing, but sometimes it's easy to feel like saying, "if I knew your were going to break my heart, I would have left you and could have saved wasted years."

From my own experience, I would say you two really need to get to the root of whatever caused him to seek this other woman. If you don't, i would suspect you might be at risk for this to happen again. Or mabye as you said, happen to you.

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