I found out my wife was having an affair with a close frend of mine. Once I found out she moved out and is living with him. Thi is her second affair. I know what the problem was. I wasn't fullfilling need for affection or conversation. I worked nights and she was working days. I was trying to find a new job because I knew our relationship was suffering from it. I tried to be there for her and show her affection and talk to her but It was too little to late. The frist affair she had was after we were first married. I was able to change what I had done wrong. Since then we have had a child and have had a good marriage. Up until about 2 months ago when things started going bad. I knew it was bad because I was starting to look for someone else to confide in. I should have never taken that job. I'm not sure I can go through this hell again.

Maybe. There are success stories from others who have been in a position of dealing with a second betrayal. There are also lots of stories where they either didn't want to try or tried and it just didn't work.

Only you can decide if you have the strength, courage, depth of commitment to attempt a rebuilding.

Sometimes, it's not in your best interest to keep trying, sometimes it is. Is your marriage worth saving?

Good luck on whatever path you take for healing.