I have previously posted about when me and my husband has been having major marital problems -- about him committing infideilty. There is a letter from his ex-wife which I have found, while cleaning the house. It states:
I got your letter last week, but I was gone for five days;
and this is the first oppotunity I've had to answer it.
You say you want an answer for the five things you listed
in your letter.
1. You and I both know it is not true, just convienent for
you to say that I tried to stop from coming home. I'm not
stupid! I know, and have known from the beginning that if
you had wanted to be home, you could have contacted the
doctor on your own. You want everybody to think that when
you are here, you take such care of me that I don't need
anyone else's help. The last time I came home from the
hospital with 258 stitches in my chest, I had
friends bringing me
breakfast, lunch, and dinner because you didn't because
you didn't even come in the room for three days! You never
gave me a drink of water, food, or even medication for the
pain! When I need help, I go to a source that I know will
provide it. And you like to run around like nothing is
wrong with me.
2. You seem to think that as long as nobody but me you and
you know what you are doing, it is your word against mine.
That is not the case, and that is how this whole mess got
started, anyway. Someone at the bank, and I know you will
figure out who, called the Post Chaplain regarding the
bank account. Because the bank wanted to take what was
overdrafted in the joint account out of my account. And,
she knew I didn't write checks out of the account. This
person is also very good friends of Ms. B. The
Chaplain spoke with (4) of my friends before he ever
called me. When he called me, he already knew about such
as:
1. You stealing my sewing machine.
2. Your not helping me when I come home from the hospital
3. Exactly how much money you gave me per month, and the
fact that I did not spend a dime more
4. The fact that you take my car evertime you get mad,
knowing I can't drive yours (he even checked with First
Sergeant **** about it).
5. And so many other ridiculous things that I didn't
want else to know about.
6. Right in front of the boys, you walked out with the
telephone, the ironing board, and my iron. You also took
food and whatever else you wanted when you "you ran away
from home."
3. These are some of the things that I had to listen to
when I walked into the Chaplain's office and found out he
already knew before I even opened my mouth. You lied to
the IG IN Korea when you told him I was writing checks on
the joint account and that is why we are having money
problems. What you didn't know Ron, was that the IG at
Fort Lee already had the banking records which show that
few months that I wrote the check for the the car payment.
It is a proven fact that every dime I spend every month
over $600.00 I make.
4. As far as cashing your royalty check, don't even bother
to tell me that I was wrong for cashing a check for less
than $10.00 when you hadn't sent me any money for FIVE
WEEKS.
5. As far as accusing me of cussing you out, you and I
both know better and you don't stand a chance for getting
anybody to beleive a lie like that.
6. Stating I sicced the Army on you, is just another way
of yours to try to make me think that everything is all my
fault. First of all, the Chaplain called me, I didn't call
him. Maybe you don't understand what friendship is because
you don't have a friend, but I have many. And one of them
went to the Chaplain's office and told everything. Who it
doesn't matter, because she left names for the Chaplain's
to call friends of mine for verification; and by the time
that I or the IG was called, he almost knew everything
without even talking to me. And just to show how bad it
is, Ron, one of them went into great detail about how you
would take my car and left me stranded deliberately. You
can't say that you don't know that I can't drive your car,
because that fact was verified by the Dr.The IG
took a personal interest in that, because a member of his
family died of cancer. That is what you are up against,
not me. And he is the one that is fighting.
7. They know that your own car is not running because
there is wrong with the starter. They also know that I
can't afford to fix it. So they are paying to get your car
fixed so it will be ready when you get here. It is
already a proven fact that my car is a medical necessity
and not a luxury item. Sitting in his office, the comment
was made to me that "I'm getting his car fixed so there is
not absolute reason for him to take yours." It is
ridiculous that emergency funds are being used for
something for this. I am not even going to try to stop
you from taking it, but don't expect me to not say
anything about it if you do. It is the kind of stuff that
makes the whole relationship worth nothing. You can't
come up with one time that I stooped low enough to start
stealing stuff of yours or taking things back. I am not
that childish.
8. You claim that I am stubborn and hardheaded, but you
can't come up with anything I've done. I don't run around
the house and not speak to you. I've never known you were
sick and didn't take care of you. I've never left you
stranded. And above all, I have never, ever, ever, told
anyone a deliberate lie on you to make myself look good,
or try to make people think that everything is all your
fault.
9. I'm the one who sat in the chaplain's office with
several other people there, when he told me that Bessie
Selleway told him that you told her, "I wish she either
get well, or hurry up and die!" When he asked me if you
said it, I didn't lie. I told the truth about everything.
10. As far as you only sending me $420.00 a month, I
haven't paid a medical bill since June. And because I can
prove that you don't give me enough money to pay them
anymore, the bills will start coming to you, directly,
because you are the responsible party. For the last three
years, I've worked half the night while you were sleep -
to try to pay these medical bills. No more! You want to
play games, you can pay the medical bills. I just spent
five days in the hospital, and I am not foregoing any
medical treatment, at all for this kind of foolishness. I
didn't mind at all goingo to the Finance Office at MCV and
telling them exactly what is going on. You won't be able
to play games with the medical bills and MCV Hospital.
They know how to get their money.
11. As far as as your letter stating, I'm out of control
and you want to stop my check cashing priveledges, I'm
giving that letter to the IG because there is plenty of
proof that you're the one who does not know how to manage
money or a checkbook. I wouldn't have said one word if you
didn't lie on me. My banking records show just opposite.
So many things have gone wrong that you nobody knows about
them, and your attitude is that "as long nodoby knows, you
didn't do anything." I don't don't have to say anything.
Everybody else is talking now. And you say it is my move,
the last thing I heard before I walked out of the office
was "we'll see what he does when he gets back.
Your wife,
***** *** **
I wanted to ask you guys -- what do you think about this letter and from what I have posted about my H committing infedlity. Isn't he almost teating me the the same way he treated her?
<small>[ November 16, 2002, 01:03 PM: Message edited by: legit-writer ]</small>
