Well my wife just told me 6 days ago about her affairs. Now all she wants to do is get back to normal. Like nothing ever happened. Of course it doesn't help that her shrinck told her the affairs weren't her fault because she wasn't happy. Which is a bunch of bull!!!! Sometimes I'm consumed with hurt and then others I ust want to leave and be done. Then there is the problem that one of my children might not even be mine. She saids her affairs meant nothing and they were just 2 one night stands. but when I get emotional she just flips out and tells me if i don't like to leave. I'm in the military though and that means it will be hard for me to see my children if i left. Our marriage hasn't always been the greatest but does that give her a right to cheat and treat me this way. I haven't always been the most understanding but always tried. She also gave me an STD. I'm 26 and been married for 6 together for 8 she's all i know. i joined the military for her. How or will I ever get over this. She doesn't show her feelings but just yells whenshe's hurting or doesn't like ho i feel. she saids it's been 6 days and I should get over it already. The thought of being on my own without my kids are killing me. i can't stand the fact that I know she'll get the kids if I do leave. i tried re connecting with her tonite which was going good but then she stopped to watch a show. after the show she was tired. when I told her it hurt me that she watched the show when we were trying to reconnect she said how was she suppose to know she's not a mind reader but I think it's common sence. What should I listen the part of me that saids to stay or go. i would never imagine doing anything like this to her. Please if anyone can give any insight i feel like i'm losing my mind over this.

I am sorry for your pain. Let me see if I have this right. Your wife tells you about her affairs and they were no big thing to her and her shrink tells her she was right to do it because she was unhappy? She gives you an STD and informs you that your son may not be yours? I doubt that she is telling you the whole truth. Do not be so sure that you will lose your children. She is not remorseful and tells you to get over it? It seems this is what your future will hold for you. The next STD may cost you your life since it is clear she does not care if she puts your heath at risk. If she is not willing to take responsibility and seek professional marriage counseling then you need to seek an attorney. She does not seem to care that she humiliates and disrespects you. Please do not settle for someone who has so little respect for you, herself and your marriage. Do you really want this woman to teach values to your children? You need to seek a paternity test immediately to understand your legal and financial obligations. I doubt you have the full story. I wish you luck.