Hi BO,

I've been there. TOW that is . I'm not going to say it made me puke or anything. It didn't. I saw a lot of very selfish people there. Funny, didn't see many posts regarding children.

Do you have kids? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

B.O.

"Hey Losers (2Long & Gb)"

Heck, I don't like it that you're calling gb a loser!

"go to Gloryb"

Been there. Now I know what "loser" means.

"read thread on General board........THE FUNNY THING IS....(OPvsBS)maybe you'll learn something....................REALITY"

You think?

Hello, Getting Better and 2Long. I am new here. I've been a lurker for a few years now, because I've never had the guts to post. I was prompted to post after reading this thread. And it was my first post.

I'm a 34 year old, divorced mother of 3 daughters. I was married for 7 years, and was a BS. It was one of the most painful things I have ever been thru in my life! I've been divorced for 8 years now, and am doing alot better! I never thought I'd be happy again, but I am. I have chosen to remain single until my kids are raised, simply so I will not risk putting them thru anymore pain then they have already had. I also want to teach them by example, that you do not NEED someone, to BE someone. I want them to be secure and confident enough with themselves so they WILL NOT end up like this "betrayed", other woman.

I added my 2 cents today because this thread sparked a nerve in me to speak up! It's as simple as that.

I just wanted to share my story and to let you know, that I am real. Sorry if I barged in at a bad time. Take care and have a good night.

Anny

Gb.....I have a son 20yrs. old, he's studying to be an engineer....thought XMM was wrong to be in relationship with me.....supported my feelings...great kid, i'm very lucky and blessed where he's concerned.......
Every feeling that anyone feels is real..even the OW suffering in relationships with MMs.....There are so many BSs at Gloryb....At first, BSs are very upset.....blasting OW, but later they get along.....OW are way more understanding than BSs.. why is that? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Anny,
Well, Boiling never responded to you.

ANNJ or whatever........being with someone does not make you someone.......denying yourself pleasure will not teach your kids anything......they probably wonder why your always alone and wont want to end up being lonely like you.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

BO:

You're kidding, right? 2ple of problems:

What example have you set for your son? That, if he should want 2 have an A with a MW, it would be HER that's cheating, not him? That he shouldn't lose sleep over what effect his A might have on his OW's family? I wish him luck.

Everybody subjected 2 infidelity suffers: BS, WS, and their families. What you describe about the BS behavior on the gloryb forum sounds very much like your own behavior on this one. Learn? I hope we all do.

bo:

"ANNJ or whatever........being with someone does not make you someone"

This is true.

"denying yourself pleasure will not teach your kids anything"

I can only hope that you know the difference between "pleasure" and "happiness" Pleasure is very fleeting, and can be acquired in a lot of ways, not all of them healthy. "True" happiness comes from within, and is always healthy - for you and for those around you.

"they probably wonder why your always alone and wont want to end up being lonely like you"

Don't confuse being alone with loneliness. You have no idea whether Anny is lonely, and she doesn't appear 2 be alone.

Did I accidentally "imply" that I was lonely? When I do meet the right one, my girls are going to see that it is for the right reasons, not just for the "pleasure"! It's all about respect! That is the messege I was trying to get across to begin with!

My son has a mind of his own......I would imagine like any other human being..... I have always been honest with him....even when i may be wrong....teaching him that nobody's perfect....we have a great relationship and he appreciates my being so open with him.....in turn he could be equally be as open with me(and is)......he has his OWN views about relationships and does have a life of his own....therefore as long as i'm O.K. with myself he's happy for me.....and vise-versa.....
So sad that you're desperately TRYING to find what's wrong with my life.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

bo:

Me, desparately trying 2 figure out what's wrong with YOU?

Quite ac2ally, I don't give a flying dog$h!+...

Just wondered, like many others, WTF you are doing here?

What's even sadder, BO, is that I cared enough to even post to you at all! I'm not a bitter, BS, nor am I a "victim"! My first post to you was just simply an observation of your pain, because you appear to still be suffering, and I felt sorry for you. If you're not in pain, FINE! Sorry then, for whatever it is you're feeling! I hope you feel better soon!

Anny

BO
you say you don't owe mm's wife anything,
so why did you call her in the first place???

well, golly onlyhuman, obviously she called the wife because she's such a caring and concerned person looking out for the needs of others! isn't that obvious from her posts in which she refers to others as losers? it's not that she takes pleasure in others pain or anything. she's truly a wonderful person who god is proud to call one of his little creatures!

OnlyHuman.....Ughhh....all you guys should only wish all your husbands would of had their A with someone like me.....She didn't feel like i was doing HER a favor, although she did appreciate knowing what was going on.... she did feel that i did her husband a favor, for now he knows where his heart really belongs.........I don't need him to PICK me, i know what we had and i know that he as well as i will cherish the memories of what we had.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I will and already have started to move on and in time i will have other life experiences....i travel alot and i have a very fulfilling life....XMM envied me for fully living my life.....he used to miss me soooo much when i would go away, even told me to call him collect person to person at HIS HOUSE with wifey there......go figure <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Kristawny....LOL.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ...i called 2long a loser because all he could do is sit there and TRY SO HARD to insult me, but obviously i don't care and have ignored him since.....i really don't have anything against anyone here as long as you don't throw the first punch...got it?...good.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

BO
Idid have an affair with someone like you .
ROFL

ANNY.....you do sound like a really nice person, and i'm sorry if i offended YOU in any way.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ..i know that your doing what's best for you and your children and i agree that you shouldn't have a revolving door of men in your home....best to wait for the right man to introduce to your children.... do you get along with xhusband?

Thankyou, BO. Yes, my ex and I get along great, much better then when we were together. He is now remarried, and I also get along very well with his wife. (Not the OW during our marriage.) He tried to get back together with me for about 7 years, up until he met his current wife. I truly hope it works out for them. I know he made mistakes, but I have forgiven him and try not to hold any grudges, I just couldn't stay with him.

BO, I assumed you were in pain, because I know that an EMR is very real, with very real feelings, and I know that OW have feelings, too. I know that the OW in my previous marriage was not given the full truth. Although she played a role in it, I did not blame her, because she never made vows to me. I solely blamed my husband. But I consider my marriage a learning experience, and choose not to be a victim of it.

Anyway, take care, and I hope all goes well!

Anny

OnlyHuman.....i read your post, OW called my wife.....I, unlike your OW, did not lie or make up stories, that is cruel....i spoke the truth....its been 2½ months since i spoke to her.......she then called me back to ask me how i wanted to settle this and to tell me she will not leave him and that if he did that again she would leave him......i asked her HOW she would know.......she had no answer....poor girl....she is a very good person and i hope that XMM does the right thing from now on, but i'm not sure that will be the case ...maybe for a while, but what about in 2 yrs. or 4 yrs..or 10yrs...will she still care? will he?....i think about him as i'm sure he thinks about me but i know its over i'm not expecting anything....i'm at peace with everybody getting what they deserve....Oh boy i'll get s**t for saying that...why does wife deserve that...blah...blah.....how is he supposed to face reality without her knowing ....duhh... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />