ANNY....of course your husband tried to get you back...i knew it...i get along with my ex husband and his wife also...at least once a year at xmas time they invite me over to the house for dinner we do all really like each other..he has 2 small kids, its great and the most important thing that the kids see that we all get along... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> i really appreciate your kindness thanks ANNY <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Your welcome! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

bo:

"i called 2long a loser because all he could do is sit there and TRY SO HARD to insult me, but obviously i don't care and have ignored him since...."

Aw shucks, it was NOTHING! Really!

sorry boilingover, but your mere presence here is the first punch. this section is called just found out for a reason. people are here because they are in pain and having you here saying how your mm missed you soo much is rubbing salt in their still open wounds. had you posted on general questions, maybe you wouldn't find so much venom poured on you. you're the child molester running loose in their daycare, their rapist hanging out at the rape crisis center, the monster under the bed. and the fact that you keep seeming to pat yourself on the back for the good service you did his wife is just weird! no married person on this planet could ever have an affair if there wasn't a person willing to sleep with them. hard to have an affair all by yourself, therefore you are every bit as responsible for the infidelity as the cheater himself. if you're looking for validation for your actions, this is not the place to find it. so knowing that, why do you keep coming back?

The OW called your "Wife".

You have lost all credibility in my eyes.

Getting Better-

I think if you refer to page 8 of this thread, the very last post on that page, and read that first line. I think BO is referring to a post made by Only Human, that his OW had called his wife.

If you are still suspicious that BO and I are one of the same, (and I could understand why you would think that), I would suggest that you e-mail the site moderator. I would think that they could verify that we are, infact, 2 different posters. I'm new here, and I really would not like to get off on the wrong foot as being viewed a fake. This is not meant to be offensive, just a thought.

I hope you have a good night. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Anny

Also, on page 8, towards the bottom, you'll notice that I had a post at 8:00, and BO had posted at 8:01. That would of been some fast typing if we were the same person. Again, not meant offensively. Take care! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Anny

GB......i was refering to OnlyHuman's post (OW called my wife) his post says that the OW lied to his wife to HURT her.....I was making a reference to that post...i reread my post and i could see how you may have misunderstood...sorry...
Kristawny.....i guess your right, i probably should be on the General board......didn't quite know how or where to approach this place.....I'm curious about marriage......i wonder about long term marriage, how it feels.......i was married for 10yrs. when it started to feel like a prison sentence.... i bailed out....don't regret it, but....it makes me wonder how other people deal with it and go on......i guess they have affairs...get caught....regret hurting spouse....either stay in marriage...cheat again or leave.....and it goes on and on.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> ...just wondering if its all worth it......i will probably never know because i won't have anymore children....therefore no reason to get married.....marriage is for people who love each other enough to have children and raise that family together....no point in being married if your not going to have children....oops, for ME that is .....this is only my opinion.....i know some people will marry even if they don't want or can't have children.....

As a BW who happens to have a 37 year old WH who happened to have a 40 year old divorced OW who happened to receive a phone call from the OW, I can tell you that what you did by calling probably did help BW to find out what was going on, but that does not erase or lessen the fact that YOU contributed to almost destroying a MARRIAGE. Granted, it was not YOUR marriage nearly destroyed nor was it YOUR marital obligation to be faithful, but getting involved with a MM was your decision. As part of your decision, there are consequences. Sometimes they are good consequences and sometimes they are bad consequences. But those consequences are a direct reflection of the behavior that created them. If they are bad consequences, then it isn't too hard to figure out that it was bad behavior.

While I understand that WH lied to you about being separated, it is a shame that you have not managed to figure out that a man who would lie and cheat on his wife might actually lie to you as well. I will not obsolve you of any guilt or pride that you might have as a direct result of your actions. All I can say is that your actions do not occur in a vacuum and they do impact other people regardless of whether or not you are the one who had the obligation to them. Seems that you and WH are two of a kind in blaming the "other" person for all of the bad things that happen as a consequence of their decisions and actions. It's nice to know that you are still able to hold your head up despite your actions, but it is a shame that the only way you can is to put all of the blame and responsibility for this on the MM.

For a while, I avoided reading your post, but I can see that I should have read it earlier. While you might not be one of the many OW WH tramped around with, the similarities are remarkable. I will simply leave it at that. Have a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year.

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