I wanted to know how does someone know when to move from plan A to B when you really dont want to

What do you think plan A vs plan B will do for you?

L.

<small>[ December 10, 2002, 08:39 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

depressed -- I've responded on your other thread, but wanted to jump in here too. Don't go to plan B until you feel you have done a good plan A. By a good plan A the Harley's mean not lovebusting, meeting needs, and improving yourself not just for your H but for you.

You are so early in this and also already physically separated. It is possible to plan A from a distance, but I will not kid you into thinking it's easy.

Have you read the Harley's basic concepts from this site? Also read through many posts before you think about going to plan B. Plan A helped me. Maybe my marriage will still work out and maybe it won't, but I can tell you that plan A worked to help me sort out my own feelings, short-comings, and strengths. Plan B right now is protecting me from the hurtful actions of my WH.

Don't make any decisions yet. Give yourself time. Get through your finals.

Orchid

Today is my first day on this forum but from what I've been reading is that plan A is trying to make my marriage work and plan B is letting go and trying to move on. I tried looking it up to understand what it really means but I couldn't find it when I went to the home page? Could you clarify it for me. I'd really appreciate it.