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I know a MM that is seeing several women at once. My question is, do I send his wife an anonymouse email giving her the names I can provide. In some cases there is just a first name. Also none of the other women know about each other. Some tell me its none of my business and to walk away. But if I was in any of these women's shoes I would want to know, especially if the scum isn't using protection and is spreading his filth among each of these women. Your suggestions, please?
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There was a thread about this last week on another board. It was resoundingly unanimously: TELL. Just please be SURE. Don't ruin people's lives without PROOF POSITIVE.
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I think you already know the answer to this. I couldn't live with the guilt if I did not tell. The wife will probably be in denial if she has no previous reasons to suspect, but I would have been a lot better off if someone had clued me in. If you are positive, let her know. If you don't think you can tell her to her face (and you may not want to unless you are willing to say what you know in court), then go ahead and send the email. I would tell her about all involved that I was sure about, and mention that I had heard a few others but was not sure about them...you don't know what she already knows, and what you can tell her may give her the final conviction/strength to do something.
..Do unto others as you would have them do unto you....
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oops- one last thought..
I would tell the other women, too- though the ones who know about the wife deserve whatever comes to them.
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Please tell. I think you already know that you would want to know if it was you. As much pain as it is, you will be assisting in the process of "exposing the affair to the light". Someone will thank you one day.
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