hi everyone I am new to this website but I have an interesting story to tell and quite frankly I need help.I am a newlywed I just got married two months ago, and by the way I am only 19.

About two weeks after I got married I noticed that my husband began losing interest in me and our marriage. Ever day I would question him about what was wrong and every day I would get the same answer "nothing".

One week went past and he started sleeping at the foot of the bed that is when I really knew I was in trouble. Two weeks had went past and I noticed the situation was not getting any better it was even beginning to take a toll on our ten month old daughter.

On november 11,2002 we had a really big arguement in the car and my husband told me that he was beginning to lose feelings for me that really hurt my feelings so I began crying and I told him that we could no longer be together I didnt really mean it.

I said it out of anger I also told him that once we got home he was to pack all of his belongings and move back home with his mother he told me that he didn't want to go back home and that I couldn't change how he felt about me. I thought that that was absolutely absurd after all he was the only one that could control his feelings.

Once we arrived home which we were living with my brother by-the-way I began packing his stuff he pleaded with me to at least let him spend the night.

I told him no way but he insisted that we should try to make it work at least for our daughter but I just didnt want to hear it, and since he didnt want to leave I told him that I would.

I then grabbed my coat and stormed out of the house. I only left because I thought he would follow me and convince me to stay and talk things out but I was wrong he never did.

I went to a friends house once I got there I called my husband at the house, but my aunt told me that he was gone with all of his things. I could not believe it so I immediately called his cell phone when he answered I asked "where are you" he replied
"at home"

I asked him why did he take the baby he told me because he didnt know when I was coming back I the told him that I was on my way to come and get the baby back.

Upon arriving at his mothers house I noticed that my husbands car was not outside of the house however he was standing in the doorway with our daughter.

When I got up to the doorway I asked him where is your car he said I hid it from you because I thought you might do something to it.

Then he proceded to tell me that the police were on therE way. I was then in disbelief why did he call the police on me I thought.

I then went upstairs to pack my daughter's things when I saw his gun case on the bed. I grabbed the telephone to call my friend I asked her if she could stay on the phone with me because at that point I did not feel comfortable being their.

He then came upstairs and told me to get off the phone I told my friend to call back in ten minutes and if their was no answer to call the police.

I then went downstairs and waited for the police to arrive when they did, I couldnt believe my ears when I heard my husband saying that we were seperated, that we had been fighting all day and that he just wanted the police to maintain the peace.

The officer then left, I was so angry that I went upstairs and wiped the dresser completely clean my husband then ran upstairs removed some clothes from the bed then pulled his gun and put it to my head saying are you crazy are you out of your mind.

I was so afraid I kept screaming saying please dont kill me, I somehow managed to run out of the house I tried flagging down the officer that was just at the house but not seeing me he pulled off.

I then ran back into the house trying to call the police he ran after me choking me trying to let my hand free of the telephone he then ran and hid the phone. After trying to calm me down I decided to calm down because I knew that would cause him to let me go.

The minute he did I ran and found the phone and dialed 911 and told them that my husband had a gun. When the police arrived despite the fact that my husband was a correctional officer he was arrested.

The next morning he called me and told me that his bail was fifty thousand dollars and then instructed me to call his best friend and let him know and that he would help me with the bail.

I did so and his best friend bailed him out on a cash bail. I accompanied his best friend to the jail to pick him up.

He got in the car and told me that he was to report to work the next day to see if he still had his job or not, and they instructed him not to have any contact with me until the trial date.

However he told me he wasnt upset and that we would still see each other that was until the next day when he found out that he had lost his job.

H called me and told me to return his car as well as his cell phone and he didnt want to talk to me and when he was ready he would talk.

To be continued, there more to this saga Adultry more.

<small>[ December 22, 2002, 05:59 AM: Message edited by: wife@19 ]</small>

1. He has serious anger issues. This is not safe for you or your daughter- I am sure you already know that.

2. My h also stopped "loving" me after I accepted his marriage proposal. Our situations are difft., but I really think it was just the persuit of me that h loved...not me...and once he caught me, he was done.

"Thank you so much Epip" I'm on my way to church
will be back to tell the rest of story.

<small>[ December 22, 2002, 07:23 AM: Message edited by: wife@19 ]</small>

Wow, that's deep I never thought of it, that way
Epip. That's really something to think about.

Wife@19. I'm so sorry that you are here but welcome anyway. I pray things will work out for you. It does appear your H has issue's with anger.

When everthing calms down, see if he can get anger management. Would love to hear the rest of your story vent here.

Hi Wife@19,

Do all you can to keep you and your D safe. Do not allow him to be alone with you or D until he has proven he has changed.

I'm sorry for the ordeal you must have been going through

And by the way, Welcome.