I went through many online scenarios some of which he actually went to the person's house. Alot of the stuff I read I cannot prove and he tells me its just talk. then he blames me for checking his IMs which I try and record as much as I can. Tells me I have no business going through his wallet, yet he searches my purse and I have never done anything (his guilt). Just yesterday I found out that he purchased a pair of shoes for a girl he met a training class for his job. He went to great lengths to hide the fact the he bought them. He called a cousin and asked her to say he bought them for her and now expects me to believe he and the girl are only friends and never have been intimate. He said he bought them because she offered to rent him a car in Feb to go see his daughter in NC..his license is revoked for dwi. The lies are the worse part and then the fact that he bought me nothing for xmas but bought some girl something. he said he did not feel comfortable telling me about the friendship. He thought I would flip out. Bunch of BS since I never have before and he knows lots of women and has lots of friends..alot of which I don't really know. He does not see it being necessary that I know all of these people. He thinks it is ok to go out and have a drink with a female friend or dinner without his wife. I hardly agree. I am not attempting to take his friends away( the ones that truly are) but to me, when you are married your friends are my friends and vice versa. I am truly heart broken because I know the situation with this girl had to be more than friendship he went through too much to hide it and I don't know what to do. I can't really prove anything physical happened and I am angry. I really makes me feel like nothing to know the ow would get a gift and not me also. I really need help because although I know in my heart what the truth is, I still want to believe him. I am torn because I feel if I do nothing he will think he can do whatever he wants and get away with it. Any advice for me?

It is not appropriate to have dinner with another woman when you are married, nor is it ok to buy personal gifts for other women. It is not even ok to have woman friends if you are married. Genders do not mix if you are married, if they do then somthing is going on or will soon.

Your spouse is suppose to be your friend.