Two weeks ago today I found out about my husband's infidelity and as time is passing a am in more pain every day. All I want to do is cry. I am not sleeping or eating and I feel like I can barely get through each day. To make matters worse, my husband is still in our home and has been back in our bed for one week. He walks around smiling and perfectly chipper. He hasn't missed a minute of sleep or a single meal. Last night I finally told him to sleep on the sofa because I couldn't stand lying awake all night while he is sleeping like a baby. The happier he seems to get on with his life, the worse I feel. Right now the pain is so great that I don't think I can take it any more. Has anyone else experienced this?

Hello

I am sorry you are going through this. I am in a similar situation. I found out of my husbands affair just over three weeks ago. After 2 weeks of ups and downs we have decided to try to work things out. He agreed to cut all contact with the ow. I know this has not happened completely yet but she lives in another country so there is no chance of them seeing eachother again. Some people say go to the doctor and get some medication. I did, but after 2 days I decided not to. I do take St Johns Wort which seems to keep me calmer. I like you cant think straight, eat or sleep. I lost 15 pounds in 2 weeks. At first my husband was sleeping in our bed with me. It was hard because I was scrambling to get back what we had instantly I couldnt understand what had happened. I know now that I need to work on myself. I think you should do the same. Try to keep occupied get Dr. Harvey's books read read read. This website also helps a lot. Try to start Plan A. I am trying to be patient. My husbands fog is lifting but it is still there. I know how hard it is. I am trying to take one day at a time. We are starting again from the begining. We are just friends right now. He sleeps in the spare room. I believe in our marriage and I am doing my best. I am sure everyone will tell you hang in there as you are the only one who can hang on to your marriage right now. You should read my posts. The first one was helllllllllppppp, then He left, then need advice badly. If there is anything I can do for you let me know. I am just a week ahead of you on this.

dear devistated-welcome to marriage builders. im so sorry for what you are going through. i was there a year ago. see your doctor and get on meds if needed. it does do wonders.

you and your husband have a long road ahead. read all you can and get the book surviving an affair by dr. harley. if possible get hubby to read it also. my husband was amazed at how right on the book was. he is not a reader and would never do counseling-somewhat the typical guy. he did read this and it was an eye opener for him.

please post more of your story and questions-we will do all we can to help.

Dear Devasted-
This will be a sympathy post. I found out about her A on 11/14 but I'm the hubby so I don't know if I can offer much advise. I'm so sorry to hear what you're feeling. I know how deeply painful and cruel it is to feel the way you do. It doesn't make sense to eat or sleep but it's what you must do. See your Dr. and get the meds. It works and it will help you maintain your strength and focus. It will get better, not alot and not real soon but it will. I found prayer and this website a big, big help. We're all here to offer support. Get yourself better first, that needs to be your priority. You can do it!

devistatedtoknow,
I am sorry for you, I know it hurts. I am going through it too. I found out three weeks ago, and my H is not even here with me. He is deployed. The OW sent me a letter and a package with everything she had from the A. She has been horrible to me. My H is begging for a 2nd chance, and right now all I want to do is scream. I am so miserable. I too have stopped eating, I sleep very little, and i am very cranky. I am trying very hard to stay strong for my little girl, but I know she knows that Mommy is upset. She runs after me and says "I sorry mommy" I am trying so hard to keep it together. I know you must be too. Keep talking here, maybe we can all get through it together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />