Yes, people chose to let them occur. This sort of thing does not happen by accident.<P>I understand how an EA can occur if the marriage is troubled in some way. My W had several EA's even before we had our problems. She has tried to explain why she did what she did, and I'm trying hard to understand.<BR>Why do they do this knowing what it will do to the marriage.<P>Just wanted to get some more input on this <p>[This message has been edited by unseen2 (edited December 15, 1999).]

This is only me, but.<P>I was a rotten lousy stinkin H and I can now admit that. Repeat WAS. I had just started a business and put all my efforts into it. I neglected my W and am paying for it with very high interest charges. <P>I do not blame her for her actions. If I would have fufilled my obligations in the marriage this would not have happened. <P>She was miserable and was looking for happiness. Don't we all want that. I didn't give it to her and she looked outside of the marriage for it.<P>The new and improved Medic will get her back [come hell or high water] and treat her as she should have been. It's a two way street. Looking back I can't believe some of the stuff I pulled.<P><P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic<P>