i HAVE BEEN MARRIED 25 YEARS. fOR THE LAST YEAR AND A HALF I HAVE SUSPECTED MY HUSBAND HAS EITHER HAD AN AFFAIR OR AT THE VERY LEAST IS VERY CLOSE TO SOMEONE. HE HAS DENIED EVERYTHING . WHAT SHOULD I DO? IM GOING CRAZY .

I can't tell you what to do, but maybe if you tell us why you suspect your H of having or being close to having an A you might see it more clearly in your own mind. I can tell you I know how you feel and that this a great place to be. There is a lot of love and help here. Keep writing, you'll feel better.

Married --

We welcome you to MB. Hope you can find what you need on this board. Read the articles on the "Home" page and everything else you can get your hands on; lots of good and clarifying information here for you.

"Used" has the right idea: the act of writing down your thoughts helps us to organize and define and illuminate -- all valuable for you at this point.

Could you provide us with some details; only what you're comfortable with. The more we know, the more we can help. What are your ages? Are there children? What makes you think that H might be affair-minded? Things like that. You must be feeling something's amiss in your marriage; what are those areas?

If indeed H has had one or is on the verge, the normal response is to deny everything. "Oh, that's ridiculous! Where did you get THAT idea?" But something's gnawing at your gut (why you've posted to us!) so you are concerned and, at the very least, would like to have explanations for those feelings of doubt.

I'm sorry for this doubt in your life. We'll help you through this maze as best we can. Post again soon, please, and fill us in a little more. Hang in there.

Ammon