All I want is for my husband to take me in his arms and tell me how he had made the biggest mistake of his life hurting me and hold me tight and kiss me and tell me he loves me. He has not yet, apologized at all. He only said he was so consumed by guilt he couldn't look at me. I long for his touch, some affection. I have started plan A but full contact with ow has just not happened yet. It has decreased substantially and as I have said before the affair was physical but it is now an EA at she lives in another country. Will he ever love me again! How long before he wakes up and realises what he has done and is doing

i understand how you feel. it all takes so much time and patience. it took my husband a year to truely apologize. and that was with steve harley's help. hang in there.

I understand how you feel. All I ever want is for my H to hold me and reasure me. I dream about things being the way they were before this happened. Just know you are not alone.

I am also going through a similiar situation.
Right I am hoping we are going through recovery mode.
My wife of 5yrs had an emotional affair with someone outside U.S. Luckily, I caught it before it went physical. I too want the love and affection my wife once gave me. All I can do is be patient. We are both reading his needs/her needs and hoping that all she needs is time.

Thanks for your help. I was having a bad night. Trying to get my back on track Plan A in full swing. We will see what happens.

Dear HurtandAlone,

I also had one of those nights last night so we are in the exact same place. It is amazing how posting and hearing from others makes you feel so much better. So here's to Plan A. I'll be thinking about you out there doing it too.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> All I want is for my husband to take me in his arms and tell me how he had made the biggest mistake of his life hurting me and hold me tight and kiss me and tell me he loves me. He has not yet, apologized at all. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I'll second that thought! That is exactly how I feel. And like you, no acknowledgement and no apology. The words "I Love You", they disappeared last June. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> That's me right now, sitting at work with tears running down my cheeks.

P.S. Just make sure you change the word husband to wife. I do not think that holding your husband is going to help me any. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

<small>[ January 10, 2003, 02:56 PM: Message edited by: trusting her ]</small>