Help! (I posted this in emotional needs but think this may be a more appropriate place)

I need some guidance from any MB's out there about confronting OM.

A very brief description of my situation.

My now XW has a child from a man that has a very strong financial and emotional grip on her. The emotional attachment appeared to be over when we dated and got married but he was financially supporting her through a legal contract the child was under 3 at the time.

We got married in June 01. The contract stated if she got married all financial support would cease. She would not tell him we were married. I felt betrayed but kept plan A'ing. She was commiting fraud so we got annuled. The financial contract was legally over in October 01.

I bought a house for us to live in (Aug 01). She did not move in despite repeatedly saying she was going to.

Plan B in Feb 02. Immediate response - I thought she had told OM that we were together. We took a family vacation together - it was not until that time did he find out. As soon we got back she asked him to take her back (I read her email).

She continued to tell me she wanted to be together and she was sorting it out. I continued to wait until Dec 02 - back to plan B. I did some LB during the last few months. He bought her a brand new E500 Mercedes and starting having her followed. Then she went back to her prison cell and withdrew from me.

She did call recently and tell me she loves me and is putting boundaries in place with him so we can be together at the end of January - however it seems like she is putting boundaries in place with me to stop me finding out about her double life.

I seem to be the person she has had the affair with!

She keeps "avoidance lying" to me - even when she knows I know the truth. ITs like she is stuck and she cant get out.

My question to everyone is should I confront the OM and tell him that we were married and are planning to spend our lives together or should I just walk away until she can agree never to see him again.

I think that he has her by the neck with the emotional attachment to the son and the huge amounts of money he gives her every month - 7-10K.

She keeps telling me she loves me though.

Should I show OM marriage certificate and blow the whole thing out into the open? Or just walk away....

Thanks!

You need to go to a competent counselor/therapist and they will tell you that you should run like hell away from this woman. She is a player, manipulator and finds it easy to lie to you. Find someone who is not a manipulator and believes in honesty and respect for a wife. You are repeating over again and most likely the result will be the same. There are red flags everyone. You need to open your eyes. I wish you luck because you will need it if you make the same mistake a second time.